Hi vagina_pagina! Long time no see.
I'm a cis-female 6 months out of a long-term relationship, and haven't been having a lot of sex since then. I'm finding myself bored of the same old masturbation routine. I miss penetration (both vaginally and anally), and want to be able to feel that sensation again on my own. In addition, I've made a friend over the internet who I've been videochatting with and other things, and I think it would be fun to mix up our "conversations" a bit.
When I start to look at sex toys online, I'm really overwhelmed, and I think I'm a bit too shy to walk into a sex shop on my own. I bought a vibrator a couple of years ago (http://www.libida.com/papillion-massag
Basically, I'm looking for either:
a) specific recommendations for toys
or
b) recommendations for guides to help me find what I want. I've tried to Google some things, but I'm still overwhelmed and confused.
I know this is pretty vague, but I appreciate any help you can give!
I'm a cis-female 6 months out of a long-term relationship, and haven't been having a lot of sex since then. I'm finding myself bored of the same old masturbation routine. I miss penetration (both vaginally and anally), and want to be able to feel that sensation again on my own. In addition, I've made a friend over the internet who I've been videochatting with and other things, and I think it would be fun to mix up our "conversations" a bit.
When I start to look at sex toys online, I'm really overwhelmed, and I think I'm a bit too shy to walk into a sex shop on my own. I bought a vibrator a couple of years ago (http://www.libida.com/papillion-massag
Basically, I'm looking for either:
a) specific recommendations for toys
or
b) recommendations for guides to help me find what I want. I've tried to Google some things, but I'm still overwhelmed and confused.
I know this is pretty vague, but I appreciate any help you can give!
http://www.babeland.com/
And they're really cool people, so if you did need to ask a question, and contacted them, they would be very helpful and supportive :)
They've also got a list of "staff picks" that might be a good place to start:
http://www.babeland.com/babeland-st
http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/feature
http://www.blogher.com/buying-your-firs
http://www.positivepassions.com/blog.ph
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/200
http://www.sheboptheshop.com/blog/2
This was on the first link that you sent. Do you (or does anybody) have any experience with it? It seems like it'd fit the way I masturbate and maybe make it more exciting (but doesn't solve the penetration part).
I'm barely starting in the toy world, but I really like my little dolly dolphin by fun factory. It's absolutely cute, fairly silent, waterproof and high quality silicone and the nose especially fits well over the area for external stimulation. Anything that's curvy rather than straight towards the end of the shaft gets my vote. However, I've found it doesn't do much as an internal toy alone. Another highly praised toy for external vibe are magic wands, hitachi makes the most praised, likely most expensive one, but several stores carry their own brand. For a less intimidating approach, websites often recommend vibrating bullets as the perfect beginner's sex toy, such as these : http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/vib
For inner stimulation however, I'm starting to think I might like a bendy rabbit to access the g-spot better as well as stimulate the clit (for me PIV is all about the angle), so I'm getting this (ugly but functional!) : http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.c
Also, I've considered combining a small vibe or finger attachement with a (cheaper) curved dildo so there's "something inside". That's what rabbits are for, but you might like the versatility. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.c
Edited at 2013-01-21 11:42 am (UTC)
http://www.babeland.com/
:)
I have a rabbit, but if you want to move it around you may lose the vibration. So, IMO, I'd go for a dildo and a vibrator. I've never had much luck with finger vibes or small bullets, but if you're new to toys the might be ok.
I've only made one sex toy purchase in my life - from them - but I plan to keep bringing them my business. They have a great privacy policy and give you a surprise gift with your order. I ended up liking the free gift better than the item I actually bought!
Of course, they have more than just vibrators (for which they give helpful size, power, and noise ratings). Accessories, dildos, unusual toys, men's toys, gay and lesbian toys... Check out clearance items for affordable experimentation.
Think about what features you'd like. How thick/thin? Hard/pliable? Textured/smooth? Bulbous or tapered? Male or abstract? Vibrating or non? (Easy to add a C-ring if a dong doesn't come with a buzz.) And then poke around online until something calls to you.
Don't buy them all at once but you'll probably want a variety. Some for internal, some for external. Some for front, some for back. Some for a good hard ride, others for push-pull slow play. I like browsing at Eden Fantasies (.com) because you can limit your choices to certain sizes, materials, etc.
For slow play, I like and recommend the acrylic XTC Pleasure Curve. Good solo or with a partner/oral. Can be used anally as well. I believe they've been discontinued for quite a while but I often see them in the "adults only" section of ebay.
It's hard to tell from your post whether you're in the market for a vibrator, a non-vibrating dildo, or something else, but here are some suggestions of toys I love:
-The Lelo Siri. It's a beautiful luxury clitoral vibe with great, rumbly vibrations. Lelo also makes a toy called the Mia 2 which is cheaper, waterproof, and charges via USB.
-If you want a penetrative vibe, I'd recommend either the Lelo Mona (amaaaazing G-spotting shape, great vibrations) or one of the Fun Factory G4 vibes (amazingly rumbly vibrations).
-As for non-vibrating dildos: anything by Tantus is a good bet, but my particular favorites are the Echo (ripply texture), Adam O2 (somewhat realistic-feeling, with a nice G-spot curve), and Acute (small, but fabulous for hitting the G-spot).
-The Amethyst is a beautiful, inexpensive, versatile glass dildo.
It's completely smooth, completely rechargeable, completely waterproof. Survives a hot tub with no problem. Two different sized ends with independent motors in each side and a whole menu of vibration patterns. If you've got decent muscle control, it's definitely usable as a "strap-in" if you enjoy penetrating someone else.
This thing is seriously wonderful. We have frequent "hot tub parties" at my house, and it gets rave reviews from everyone!