11:29 am - 04/19/2012

boobs, my sister and stuff

Hi!  I am 15 and a half years old and I am really struggling with body issues (i know. Surprise, right??!?). First time poster.  My aunt, who is totally cool, suggested i come here. I am home sick from school today and have lots of extra time, so here goes, i guess...  I have issues with my boobs. Not just that they are tiny. AA cup!  But I have a little sister who is 13 and she is bigger than i am. I mean not just by a little bit, but by a lot. She is a C cup (!!!). I hate this and it doesn't feel fair because we supposedly have the same genes! What's up with that?? She is even a lil taller than me. The funny thing is that except for this little (big) thing, we could almost be mistaken for twins which i suppose only emphasizes the difference more.

I am like hellajealous of my sister and i hate that too. I know i should'nt resent her. I mean it's not her fault. It's not like she made a decision that she was going to seriously outboob me. But still I can't help it. I hate that i feel this way towards her. And I already get teased at school because of my small boobs and i am afraid it might get worse when my sis starts high school lext year and i am sure people will take note of her boobage and my lackthereof.  And swimsuit season... ERGH. No hiding it there.

So this really gets me down because they are just... boobs. There are a lot worse problems in the world, right?  Like there are people out there who don't have working legs or whatever and here i have a healthy body that lets me do so many things and i am actually complaining? I shouldn't care about this, but i do. And that makes me feel SUPER GUILTY and it makes me feel even more down. It makes me feel like a bad person. Why do i care so much?  I am young, maybe i have time to grow more and it won't bother me so much, but i dunno. I've been this size since junior high.

i don't know what i am really looking for here. Maybe i just need one of you to tell me how stupid i am being about all this. To tell me they are just boobs and to get over it.  i am sorry if i am such a downer today. That will teach me to make a post on a sick day i guess. lol
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quinnypin 19th-Apr-2012 03:45 pm (UTC)
I'm 26 and at 15 I was an AA cup as well. Now I'm a largeish B cup, so they're not huge, but they are obviously boobs. ;oP

My sister is two years younger than me and developed DDs by the age of thirteen or fourteen. I was SO jealous. Now at 24 she's talking about a reduction because they're huge (I would guess around a G or H?) and cause her a lot of stress and pain.

Seeing my sister, and seeing myself, I absolutely prefer being small-busted!
alotus_poetry 19th-Apr-2012 10:18 pm (UTC)
I agree. And it's because by the time one becomes a grown woman, usually about 20-21 years, we mature in the physical development department, and we look proportionate. It's much easier to find clothes that fit than to have boobs too big of a size to fit most dresses, shirts, etc. Just adding on! :)

I can say this because my boobs compared to most of my other friends when I was 15, theirs were WAY bigger than mine. Now I'm 27, and I love how my boobs are well-proportionate to everything.
nickelshoe 19th-Apr-2012 03:53 pm (UTC)
First off, if you are only 15, you may yet grow some more. I didn't get most of my size until I was sixteen, and you can continue filling out at you put on more fat stores into your early twenties.

It's totally okay to be unhappy with something about your body. You don't have to feel happy just because you "should" be satisfied. Your feelings are totally valid, and don't let anyone else tell you that you should be happy because you don't have X, Y, or Z problem.

My sister and I don't look much alike, but she got my mom's big boobs and I got the small boobs from the other side of the family. I'm sure it was different for us, since we don't look alike. It was still annoying to buy A cups that were too big or to have trouble finding dresses that were wide enough for my hips without being huge in the bust. Right now I'm breastfeeding my baby, so my boobs are larger, but they may go back down to their old size afterward (or somewhere in between). I think I'll miss being a C cup! And that's okay! I don't have to think that my body is perfect. There will always be things that I dislike. The key is not to dwell on them.
trillian96 20th-Apr-2012 02:51 pm (UTC)
Thank you for letting me know its okay to feel that way... much better then the "get over it" suggestion i was originally looking for. lol. And i know i am 15 and can grow more, but i want boobs NOW. lol
dkwgdk 19th-Apr-2012 03:58 pm (UTC)
I totally didn't get my adult-sized boobs until I was 25, and then they grew again in my early 30s. So there's that. Plus, there are some drawbacks to the larger boobage, in my case the fact that I can't find sports bras that fit and that buying shirts is pretty tough (I'm a 36DD).

HOWEVER, it's okay to be mad/sad that you're the size you are. I, personally, hate how short my neck is. (Makes me look like a dude, a big, mean dude.) Nickelshoe is right!!

I have no idea if this is helpful to you at all, but one of the greatest boosts to my own self-esteem has been exercise. I do lots of different things -- dance, weight-lifting, recently started Pilates, spin class,step...I love dance, especially. I find that because this stuff makes me focus on what my body can DO, rather than what it LOOKS LIKE, I am way more comfortable with it. Just a thought. :)
alotus_poetry 19th-Apr-2012 10:20 pm (UTC)
AMEN to this!!

I concur about the sports bras ordeal. Right now, I'm a 36B, but there are times when I have to buy like 2 cups sizes larger for just a sports bra!! I guess because we swell more when we workout (probably due to dilation of blood vessels to increase blood circulation during exercise)...
pixibliss 19th-Apr-2012 04:00 pm (UTC)
You could still grow, like you mentioned but then again you may not. I don't think it's worth getting jealous about though. Everyone is different.

Kind of petty but it helped me sometimes with dealing with that is knowing that girls with bigger boobs are going to sag and you won't. ;) Plus big boobs are obnoxious sometimes and get in the way of doing certain things, not to mention back issues.
dkwgdk 19th-Apr-2012 04:08 pm (UTC)
Lemme tell you about the time I dropped guacamole between the girls. Eish.
anowyn 19th-Apr-2012 04:04 pm (UTC)
Hehe, no offense meant at all but this made me chuckle -- my sister and I were mistaken for twins all the time despite being 18 months apart, but once puberty hit we started changing. She's an inch taller than me and she has your breast "problem", but she got long, lengthy limbs and amazing hips, I got the boobs. We're both jealous of each other! Needless to say I totally know how you feel.

But yes, you said yourself, you're young. You still have plenty of time to grow and change. I'm 24, and I'm STILL growing into my body. My hips are only recently sprouting and my boobs seem to be making their final adjustments (though that can change after having a child). When I was 18 they were an A cup still but now they're a full B. I wouldn't worry too much. :)

About the genetics - You have a large pool you came from, not just your mom and dad's genes but your grandparents and so on, too. Certain features can definitely be more prominent in one sibling than the other, and vice versa. I got my mom's face and hair and dad's sisters body shape/size; my sister got my mom's side's body and my dad's sister's face and hair.

Anyway, you're totally justified in being unhappy with their body, because who isn't? And you're NOT a bad person! But just try to remember that everyone is different, and that you are wonderful just the way you are. :)
trillian96 20th-Apr-2012 03:02 pm (UTC)
No offense taken. :) maybe there are things that my sis is jealous of me about that i don't even know. funny thing, genetics huh?
rapunzelita 19th-Apr-2012 04:06 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry that people are teasing you about the size of your boobs. Teasing and bullying really suck. But on the other hand, if people decide to tease you, they're going to tease you anyway. I'm fairly sure even if you had bigger breasts they'd find a way to make you feel terrible about yourself. It will change. High school is a really tough time, but I'm sure you can find people who will befriend you even if, *gasp*, your boob size is outside the norm :) And in a few years, well, nobody will actually give a damn about that. You might also have bigger boobs in a few years. It's completely possible.

I know it's not much, or maybe a bit weird to hear out of the blue, but, personally, I find small boobs really, really attractive, far more than big or average-sized ones. And I know for a fact that I'm not the only one. People are attracted to many, many different things, which very rarely correspond to what the media are telling you is "sexy" or "beautiful". It's just crap.
(As a side note, the guys who think that the only attractive women are the ones who abide by those ridiculously high and reductive standards of beauty? They're not usually the guys you want to date, befriend, or even talk to. Honestly. At best they're really boring)

There are a lot worse problems in the world, right? Like there are people out there who don't have working legs or whatever and here i have a healthy body that lets me do so many things and i am actually complaining? I shouldn't care about this, but i do.

Hey, that's fine. Don't beat yourself up. If it makes you feel down, then it's a "real" problem. There is no objective scale for measuring whether or not a problem is "real" or not. Yeah, you could have it worse. On the other hand you could also be living on Mars and have blue skin. What matters is that it does make you feel down. It's ok. People all have things that make them feel down. They can seem pretty stupid, but really, who's to tell? I feel miserable when I don't have cereal in the morning. Sure, there are people who actually starve or die of thirst. And that's terrible. Much, much worse than the cereal problem. But that isn't going to make anyone feel any better. It's ok to have comparatively small things make you feel way down. Especially at such a messed-up time as high school, in which pretty much EVERYONE feels miserable (yes, even your classmate who has big, perfect, shapely boobs. Especially her, I'd imagine.)

This is kind of rambly, I apologize, but to summarise: small boobs are attractive too and people who tell you otherwise are full of crap, and yes, it's ok to be preoccupied by that a great deal anyway, don't worry, you're a human being who has problems. That's fine.

Hope this helps (if not, feel free to throw rocks at me.)
jello_x 19th-Apr-2012 04:35 pm (UTC)
I spent my pre-teen/teen years patiently and not-so-patiently waiting for my boobs to arrive. When I was about 19 or 20, they finally sort of did, but not enough to really make a difference lol...I'm a small 32B, which basically means if I'm not wearing a padded push-up I'm flat as a board. I'm the only one in my family with this lack of boobage.

Honestly, I stopped caring when I got out of high school. Small boobs have benefits! You never having to worry if you're showing too much cleavage at work, it's easier to tailor a shirt down smaller in the chest than it is to make it magically bigger, they don't get in the way of anything...my friend has huge boobs and she's always jealous that I can wear bags with cross-body straps without them going all weird and jamming up between my boobs lol

Sometimes I still get self-conscious, mostly at the prospect of sexual situations, but I think no matter what my body looked like I would still find SOMETHING to worry about in that situation. It's normal. Just try to embrace who you are, and work it!
blackpuddle 19th-Apr-2012 05:11 pm (UTC)
I got teased in middle school and high school for not having a chest. Even in college I didn't have one. Now I'm 28 and I'm a B cup. It started showing up in my early to mid 20s. My neighbor cracked up cause one day I went to move my arm across my chest and smacked it into a boob and went "what the fuck is this shit?!?!?!" cause that had never happened to me before. I was not happy about literally having nothing then suddenly having something. They showed up overnight pretty much then grew a little over the years. But, hey it gave her a good laugh on a day she needed it so whatever =)

My little sister has always been larger breasted then me, and she was always jealous of me not having any. All my larger breasted friends have always been jealous of my smaller ones cause I don't need a bra, they don't get in the way, and I can wear more fun shirts with open backs, thin straps, etc. There's pros and cons to both sizes =)
trillian96 20th-Apr-2012 03:09 pm (UTC)
How did you deal with the teasing? I never know what to say so I just laugh along even though it hurts me. That was a hilarious story! lol although i wouldn't mind waking up one morning with boobs. :) Think my sis might be jealous of me? she hasn't said so....
loototherah 19th-Apr-2012 05:14 pm (UTC)
Hey! One thing that stinks about being 15 is that generally, people will find a way to make fun of you. Bullying is really high in both middle and high school, so even if you did have bigger boobs... that's not to say someone mean wouldn't just try and pick on you for another reason. My boobs were a B when I was 15, and while I didn't get comments about my boobs, you can bet I got tons of comments about my frizzy hair! Also, as my boobs grew throughout the rest of high school, I got lots of comments about how "huuuuuge" they were, and a lot of really uncomfortable and unwanted attention.

Lots of girls would love to have small boobs because most mainstream clothing is designed for small boobs! Big boobs run in my family, and shopping for something as simple as a button down shirt is pretty much impossible for us because the buttons gap. Don't even get me started on empire-waist shirts and halter-tops (ouch, my shoulders)!

What I would recommend is finding ways to dress your body in a way that adds more volume on top, just so you feel more confident about your appearance. Scarves are a great way to add volume AND accessorize, as well as shirts with ruffles around/above the bust line. Buy really pretty, patterned bras so that you feel cute even under your clothes.

Having insecurities about your body isn't ever anything you should put yourself down for -- everyone has those insecurities sometimes. It's just a matter of how you deal with those insecurities. :) Good luck!
bernthewitch 20th-Apr-2012 05:01 am (UTC)
Empire waists... the accursed four-boob!
lilsongbird 19th-Apr-2012 05:16 pm (UTC)
I had a cups til I was in my 20's. Suddenly a medication I was on shot me from a 32 a up to a 38 c. Guess the grass is always greener because I wish mine were smaller. I miss not having to wear a good solid bra to work out (big boobs bounce when you jump and they hurt!), and not having them get in the way of things. I'm still adjusting to sudden boob growth so I'm forever knocking things over with my boobs. Each side has their pros and cons. It's nice I can wear shirts and fill them out now... But I really do miss not having them in the way
trillian96 22nd-Apr-2012 01:04 am (UTC)
Hey yeah, you are in the unique position of being able to tell it from both sides. :) umm.... sorry you lost your small boobies. But if it makes you feel better, i did get a good laugh about the image of you knocking stuff over with them. lol :)
theatreant 19th-Apr-2012 06:07 pm (UTC)
Just to give you some hope, I didn't have breasts until about 17 (my senior year of high school) and they were B cups. Now, at 26 I'm a 30E. I 'blossomed' at 20-22 during college. I was always just a bit slower in growing than other kids and finally caught up. I was teased and picked on mercilessly in middle school/high school. I like to say I had 'ugly duckling' syndrome, because I'm definitely a swan now. :)
karenoh 19th-Apr-2012 06:12 pm (UTC)
I'll just chime in with my own experience.

To sum it up, I'll just say: time helps.

I don't mean that your boobs will necessarily get bigger: mine didn't. I just like them a whole lot better now that I'm in my late 20s. I've realized they work well with my body, and there are advantages to them: I can wear super low cut necklines without causing a scandal. I can go without a bra, which is super comfortable! No need for underwire...which I also find super uncomfortable.

I had very small boobs (AA) for most of middle school and high school. I invested tons of money in padded bras and these silicone bra insert things. Then, when I turned 18, I went on the birth control pill specifically in hopes that it would make my boobs bigger. (It didn't, it just made me gain weight elsewhere.)

When I went off to college, at one point, I became more comfortable with my body and stopped wearing my super padded bras and inserts and eventually stopped wearing bras altogether.

I am now at the point where I actually prefer the look of my natural (still small...around 32A now) breasts to my padded, pushed up, silicone-pad-enhanced boobs.

It's just a different look, but it's one I've grown to appreciate and prefer on myself.

My advice to you: tough it out through high school. High school is rough and teenagers can be brutally mean. If you think a lightly padded bra might make you feel better about yourself, I personally say no harm done...my Curves inserts got me through high school for sure. I wore them every day, much to my mother's despair.

Hold out til college, which can still be rough, but will allow you an opportunity to start off with a fresh start (ie I couldn't stop wearing all my boob-padding til I went off to college, otherwise people would notice the change.)

Also know this: not everyone prefers bigger boobs, despite what the movies and magazines tell you. Plenty of folks like ALL boobs, plenty of folks prefer smaller breasts over larger breasts.

I say this because, at 15, I convinced myself that since I did not have big boobs, I would NEVER have a romantic partner. I truly believed this. (Flash forward: I've had a number of wonderful romantic partners, none of whom have had issue with my breasts...at least not to my knowledge.)

One day, I hope you will learn to love your smaller breasts as much as I now love mine!

In the meantime: good luck getting through the rest of high school. Hang in there. It will get better.
jeesh 19th-Apr-2012 08:08 pm (UTC)
My boobs didn't grow much until I was 22+. You still have time. Your hormones are still changing and will keep changing for the next 10 years atleast. So don't worry too much, you still have time. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with having small boobs. I know it may be discouraging, and I totally felt the same way as you when I was your age. You'll find a great partner who will love you no matter what size your boobs are :)
sky_blue_pink 19th-Apr-2012 08:36 pm (UTC)
I wanted to add, in addition to all the wonderful comments you've been receiving, that part of being a teenager is learning to work with what you've got. I had the opposite problem you did (DD+ boobs in high school attracted all the wrong kind of attention, and frankly, it was not a good time) but I kind of learned to work with it. Which means, you know, spending $70+ on bras with incredible engineering to somehow keep those babies in place, having to get my prom dress specially tailored so I could wear a bra with it, never being able to shop in department stores for any bathing suits or underwear because nothing fit, and so forth. I thought pretty seriously about getting a reduction, just because it was so disheartening to shop for clothes and bras that never seemed to fit. The point is that, at either end of the boob spectrum (very big or very small) you're going to encounter inconveniences as a result of the fact that you're not smack in the middle of the bell curve. And you just need to learn to work around them.

But either one comes with its advantages, IMHO. I remember being desperately jealous of girls who could actually wear spaghetti straps, tank tops, or bandeau bathing suits, not to mention all the girls who could buy prom dresses without having to make all kinds of extra calculations for whether or not their bra strap would be showing. I feel like you have a lot of options for nifty, bra-less clothes that I never would have dreamed of wearing--like backless dresses and shirts, and anything that's strapless.

Anyway, instead of feeling guilty about it, work it to your advantage by learning to accentuate your other good features. Find something you really like about yourself (legs, stomach, waist, neck, shoulderblades, clavicles, feet...literally anything) and work it to your advantage by finding clothes that flatter that aspect of you. Plus, think about how much less boob sagging you'll have in the future! Surely that's worth something!

As a side bar, anyone who is "teasing you at school" needs to shove it. I don't know what kind of form that teasing takes, but rest assured that karma will come around in the end and they'll get theirs. Not to be a bitter vindictive high school nerd or anything, but people who are assholes in high school generally end up with less-than-stellar lives afterwards.

Also, you will be able to get laid in the future no matter what size your boobs are. I don't know if that's something you're concerned about, but if it is, trust me--it will be absolutely no hindrance to your sex life. XD

Keep your chin up!
karenoh 19th-Apr-2012 11:47 pm (UTC)
If this were a Facebook post, I would "like" it.
serenebean 19th-Apr-2012 09:19 pm (UTC)
You've already gotten a ton of good responses, but I'll add mine to the list as well. :)

I was in the same place when I was 15. I wore a 34A (on a good day), and my 13-year-old sister wore a 38C-D. It really is a time thing...you will probably grow a bit more - I wear a 36B now, at age 25. My boobs might not give me the "best" cleavage or the most hourglassy shape...but my sister (now a 38D-DD) really hates all the attention she gets for hers too. And they hurt her back. :(

So yeah. They're "just boobs." But don't feel guilty about worrying about it either! Somebody else wrote a really great reply about all problems being "real"...I would definitely second all of that reply. :)
riverthyme SuperDownsize Me!19th-Apr-2012 09:58 pm (UTC)
Don't feel guilty! It's a normal reaction really. Personally I think MY sister sucks because her boobs are SMALLER than my 36DDD. Being a life-long member of the Ginormous Jugs Society, I can easily say that it SUCKS to be this big. I always have a hard time finding bras, shirts, swimsuits, dresses....sigh. These giant knockers are way too much trouble! Anyway, to be honest, you may or may not get bigger, BUT the good news is: you can wear so many more clothes, get super cute push up bras, and you won't have to pay the chiropractor when you get back problems. I know you feel self-concious about them now, but trust me when I say, if you wear them proudly and be confident in them (that's the hard part i guess), then no one will fault you. No matter what you do, mean spirited prats will find some way to make fun of you. If you laugh it off and make it a joke, not only will it throw them for a loop, but it will show those losers that YOU are okay with how you look(whether you are or aren't). Don't worry about your boobs sweety, amp up your other great features! Bet if you asked, your sister has something she hates about herself too. I have 5 sisters, guess you could call me a non-degree'd expert. ^w^ Hope you feel better honey!

Edited at 2012-04-19 09:59 pm (UTC)
makale_83 19th-Apr-2012 10:39 pm (UTC)
You will find that some men prefer smaller chests and that it really isn't a big deal. People always tease you and it is always SOO bad in middle school but it will get better in high school. I'm sure that you'll grow a little but even if you don't it isn't a big deal. You are beautiful the way you are! :) Don't obsess about what you don't have and just accentuate what you do have.
gryphonwing 20th-Apr-2012 12:54 am (UTC)
Some women also prefer smaller chests. The poster may not be straight. I would say, rather, that whatever shape your body is, you will find people who appreciate you and it. Anyone worth being with isn't going to be like, "nope, not interested, breasts are too small."
somniumdraconae 19th-Apr-2012 11:20 pm (UTC)
When I was 15 I was barely a B cup... at 25 I am now wearing a 32 DDD. So they can really catch up with you over the years. Boobs continue to grow into your mid twenties. Give it time. And take the time to read through the huge amount of support and great responses you've got here :)

PS, all boobs are awesome, even little ones! Whether you're in to guys or girls, there are ones out there that love little boobs! =D
sophy 20th-Apr-2012 03:08 am (UTC)
You've gotten a lot of great boob-related advice already and I hope that's helping you.

I wanted to chime in on the self-esteem bit.

I'm a person in a non-healthy body whose legs don't always work right, and you know what? I don't find there to be anything wrong or petty or guilt-deserving in you having issues with your boobs. We ALL have our issues. And it's okay to worry about yours. And yea, they're just boobs and it would be awesome for you find ways not to let it ruin your life. But also they're not just boobs - we females are constantly be barraged with crap about how we're supposed to look and behave and it can be demoralizing trying to live up to that all of the time.

If it helps, I know people with large boobs who are miserable about them and wish they were smaller. I, myself, have worked long and hard on having a healthy and positive body image - but I still hate my chin. Like, a lot. A lot a lot. Like I cringe when I see myself in the mirror a lot.

Anyway, don't feel like a bad person because you're experiencing what just about every woman in our culture experiences about their bodies. Just take some of the advice given about how to feel better about the body you're in, because there's some really good stuff there!!
seasight 20th-Apr-2012 04:45 am (UTC)
One of my exes had an a-cup (something like that) and I still think they looked amazing on her. I was almost jealous. Does that help?

onlyforever10 20th-Apr-2012 07:55 am (UTC)
I always tell my younger cousin (she's 17 and a AA) to not give up hope yet...I was a small A cup until I was 23! Then I filled out to a full B. I thought you were stuck with whatever boobs you had at 16. Definitely not true. It was especially hard for me because both my mom and grandma are DDs and I couldn't figure out why I never got those genes.

But after watching them both (and a good friend in college who was rather well endowed) struggle, I learned to love my small boobs. I don't have back problems, or have to special order ugly, industrial strength bras, or worry about falling out of small tops or bathing suits.
trillian96 22nd-Apr-2012 01:35 am (UTC)
Haha thank you for the hope... but if not i guess i will TRY to learn to love them... you know just in case. But you are right there are advantages.
sunshinesarah 20th-Apr-2012 11:55 am (UTC)
I know just how you feel!

I'm 27 and a full A cup/small B cup, and this is the size I've been since puberty. I used to wish and pray every night that I would get bigger. Meanwhile, my sister, who is 4 years younger than I am, got full Cs. The funny thing is, she's a very tiny girl (size 3 with narrow hips), and I'm more full-figured. I always joke that we got each other's boobs.

Here's the thing - maybe you'll grow more, maybe you won't. Whatever size you end up being, you should find something to love about your body regardless. For example, I'm still unhappy with my cup size, but I also think that my boobs are very pretty as far as their general shape and appearance - small but mighty, I always say.
collsers 20th-Apr-2012 01:52 pm (UTC)
Hello, are you me from 15 years ago? I come from a family of well-endowed women--both grandmothers and my mom were/are C+ cups, my older sister is a D cup. At the age of 27, I am finally an A cup because of birth control, but until recently I was smaller than an AA cup. You know what's kind of embarrassing? Being in your 20s and still buying bras at Limited Too. My younger sister is two years younger, and has had larger breasts than me since I was about 14. She is currently a 32G (we are both super skinny, which makes her big boobs look even bigger), and can't wait to get a breast reduction in the next few years because she has back problems, and a hard time finding clothes that fit well.

It has taken me a long time to come to terms with our boob-disparity. Oddly enough, I was teased for my boobs much more by my sisters than by kids in my school...even just last summer I was swimming with my sister, and as I got out of the pool she made a comment that I look the same as I did in middle school. It was hard for me to become comfortable with my lack of boobage, since we really are led by the media to believe that guys only find big boobs attractive. Well, I'm happily married and my husband loves my small boobs--he says that a handful is a perfect size for him :) When it comes down to it, guys/girls will find your boobs attractive because they are boobs, they really aren't that picky about the size.

Some awesome things about small boobs:
- you never outgrow your shirts; I have shirts from 10 years ago that still fit
- exercise and running are much more comfortable; I rarely even wear a sports bra when I work out, just a camisole with a built-in bra
- you don't have to wear a bra all the time! My sister sleeps in a bra. I probably only wear one out in public 75% of the time, and never around the house. So much comfier, in my opinion. Any dresses that require a strapless bra, I usually just go without which is awesome.
- bras are a lot cheaper. I can almost always find some at TJ Maxx or H&M since the fit isn't nearly as important for tiny boobs. I don't know if they still sell them, but during my AA days I used to buy bras at Macys/Kohls that were from a line that had "half sizes," including a "nearly A" size that fit perfectly. I'm not a fan of super-padded bras, but there are some out there that will really increase you by a full cupsize if you want to.

I hated my boobs through high school and most of college, so instead I focused on body parts that I did like. I had pretty great legs, if I say so myself, so I worked out to keep them that way and wore short skirts to highlight them. I like to think that instead of looking at me and saying "that girl has small boobs," people would think, "wow, she has great legs!" Think about if there is a part of your appearance that you really do like--whether it is legs, hair, a great smile, etc--and try to highlight that. Remember that no one is 100% happy with the way they look (really, no one!).
tornattheelbo 20th-Apr-2012 02:15 pm (UTC)
really you shouldn't worry about it, little boobs are lovely!
a_mutewitness 20th-Apr-2012 03:31 pm (UTC)
I just had a long comment written out and deleted it, SO, here it goes again.

I agree with everything that the previous posters have said, I just figured I'd lend a hand and give my two cents.

I also barely fill an A cup, and my sister is three years younger than me and she is also much bigger than I am. Although this bothered me at first, with time it just didn't seem to matter.

Like others have said, you are completely allowed to be uncomfortable with this aspect of yourself, especially through this period in your life. However, I would suggest maybe thinking about why you are upset with having smaller breasts. Do you want larger ones because of your sister? Do you think you need to have bigger breasts to be considered attractive?

If the latter is the case, I'd just like to say the older you get, the less people seem to care about another person's outer appearance (in my own personal experience). My boyfriend LOVES my small chest, and as he says "anything more than a handful is just too much!".

Also, if you can understand why you are unhappy with your chest, you can start to plan ways that you can feel better about yourself. Like other posters have said, exercising is great, dancing, etc, just finding out what your body can DO.

On another note, a lot of my friends with larger breasts often complain of back pain, they can't buy cute cheap bras without suffering the consequences, they can't do a lot of activities without feeling uncomfortable, etc. One of my friends can't even wash all of her dishes in one standing because of her breasts!

On the other hand, I get to buy cute cheap bras and save money, I can run without a bra and feel completely comfortable, and although I do have the odd time where it is hard to find a dress that fits my hips and isn't too big on the top, it's not too big of a hassle.

I also have an aunt who had to resort to getting a breast reduction because of the pain that they caused her, and my friend who I mentioned about the dishes is seriously considering one as well.

Like others have said, you still have plenty of time to grow and develop! I just think you should also be prepared for if you don't. In my case, I am 22 years old and I am still the size that I was at the start of puberty. Although this used to bother me a lot, I learned to love my body and find the positives in it.

All bodies are beautiful, and I think with time you will learn to love and accept your body as a wonderful thing!
trillian96 22nd-Apr-2012 01:45 am (UTC)
"I would suggest maybe thinking about why you are upset with having smaller breasts. Do you want larger ones because of your sister? Do you think you need to have bigger breasts to be considered attractive?"

Hmmm....well, I dunno.... i guess I've equated breasts with femininity, i guess? Like my sister is somehow more of a woman than i am because she has bigger breasts. And i am the older sister, so that doesn't feel right. I know, it's very silly. And she DOES seem to get more attention from the boys. But also know that teenage boys are immature and i shouldn't take that as how men think. Thank you soooooo much for the thoughts and advice. You have been so helpful.


helenkacan 20th-Apr-2012 03:49 pm (UTC)
I also wanted to add, besides the tip to find clothes that suit your figure NOW (and make you feel amazing), try to get a fabulous haircut, something for people to focus on other than staring at whether you have boobs or not.

The other thing is, if people are making "fun" of you and comparing you (negatively) to your sister, you can turn the joke back on them. You can laugh and say your air pump is broken, so you couldn't blow them up to large. Any time you can laugh at yourself in public (even if you have to fake act it), you take power away from people who hurt you (either unintentionally or maliciously). And, hey, if people ::rolls eyes:: don't get it that their jokes still aren't funny, just ignore them.
a_mutewitness 20th-Apr-2012 08:16 pm (UTC)
This!


My friends and family constantly poke fun at my small chest, and honestly it doesn't even phase me anymore. I just make a joke of it, or turn it around and tease them right back. I know it's not right to fight fire with fire, but showing them how it feels to be made fun of is sometimes worth it and they may not do it again.

I just laugh at myself when people bring it up, it makes them realize that it doesn't seem to bother you and they are less likely to do it again!
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