4:11 pm - 12/11/2011

Letting your guy cum inside you

Hi fellow VPers. I was curious as to everyone's thoughts on the following. My guy and I were recently looking at some artsy type erotica/porn on the internet the other day (it was amateur non-model type couples and very sexy!) and we found this site that showed this one picture of this sweaty couple embraced on the bed after lovemaking and you could see a whole bunch of semen dripping out of her (from behind) and down the back of her thighs/legs. For some reason, this REALLY turned me on and I found myself looking at this picture again the next day and really wanting to try no condom sex (I'm on the pill now). It's not that I want a baby or anything but I think it's just the thought of being so close to my guy after lovemaking and knowing that his semen (obviously something very male) is all inside me. Is this normal?
sandi1743 11th-Dec-2011 08:18 pm (UTC)
if you both are comfortable with no barrier and both have been tested and are fine with the results there and you are on the pills is no reason why to go with a barrier.
lilpaige 11th-Dec-2011 08:18 pm (UTC)
I'm the same way :) To me, it's probably the most intimate thing you can do. As long as you take your pill correctly, you should be safe to do it :) if you're nervous, maybe avoid letting him finish inside of you when you're ovulating. I have an IUD, so I let my boyfriend do it for the first time once I became comfortable and confident with my protection, and it was the hottest and then most romantic thing ever.
myrcwood_rose 11th-Dec-2011 09:18 pm (UTC)
She's on the pill, there is no ovulation, there isn't any "safer" or "less safe" time.
somniumdraconae 11th-Dec-2011 08:23 pm (UTC)
Totally normal.

There are women of all persuasions when it comes to semen, of course. Some women find it totally yuck and run for the bathroom to clean up afterwards. Some aren't bothered by it, but neither does it turn them on. And some get super hot just thinking about it. And some think its good for their skin and do all sorts of things with it that are, well, not the usual uses.

There's really no "abnormal" responses.
ready2please 11th-Dec-2011 08:35 pm (UTC)
Being turned on by your partner's bodily fluids isn't abnormal. When using proper protection that can be a very intimate thing to share with your partner that make you both feel even closer AND very turned on.

Personally, I love it.
ennifer_jay 12th-Dec-2011 02:42 am (UTC)
This is a very inclusive comment - thank you.
begintohope 11th-Dec-2011 08:36 pm (UTC)
It's what you're biologically wired to want, so of course it's normal!

I've tried it a few times, in heat-of-the-moment situations where it felt most natural to skip the condom. It was nice to feel the warmth & wetness of it. My man doesn't enjoy it that much though, so we don't do it anymore.
patchworkorange 11th-Dec-2011 08:40 pm (UTC)
I can't imagine sex without it. That's why our cervix opens and closes with orgasm :) It almost drinks up the semen, very cool.
teprometo 11th-Dec-2011 08:55 pm (UTC)
I've been on HBC for 8 years and have had several monogamous sexual partners in that time. I have only very rarely used condoms. In my current relationship, we don't use them at all. We got tested and shared results before having intercourse.

The monogamy part is important because even if you're comfortable with a non-monogamous relationship, you can't be sure whether your partner is being exposed to STIs. And if your partner has been unfaithful in the past, it's best to keep using condoms just to be safe. Unfortunately, not all people feel comfortable enough with saying, "I have trouble with pure monogamy," and instead choose to lie and put others at risk. I've been a cheater, too, so this isn't a personal judgment on people who cheat. It's just reflective of a really sexually constipated society.

All that said, often he doesn't ejaculate in my vagina. We both enjoy having his semen everywhere, chest, back, butt, face, and of course vagina.

So you're not weird at all. Just be sure to talk about the potential risks.
atalanta0jess 11th-Dec-2011 09:28 pm (UTC)
It is certainly possible to be non-monogamous and know whether your partner is being exposed to STIs. (Or rather, you can be just as certain then as you can be in a monogamous relationship, since really it depends on whether you're being lied to.) It just depends on who is involved...how many connections there are and such. If I only have one partner aside from my husband and that partner is only with his spouse, then it's a closed loop....no new exposures.
rojarabbits 11th-Dec-2011 09:54 pm (UTC)
I like letting my s.o. come inside me, especially since I feel bad interrupting the "flow" and making him pull out. Plus like you said, there's something intimate about it. The only downside is I find that semen burns lol
sandi1743 12th-Dec-2011 04:10 am (UTC)
i know many women that have had this issue - it sometimes help to make sure that you all use lube before hand - the micro-abrasions that are caused by sex don;t hurt until the pH change from the semen comes into contact with them.
janechido 11th-Dec-2011 10:23 pm (UTC)
Thanks for everyone's replies and all very helpful and supportive. We've both been tested for STDs, etc. and have been together a while now. For me, I've always been very turned on by his semen and similar to others I've had it pretty much everywhere (stomach, breasts, back, furry vulva and even my face/hair after performing oral) except directly into my vagina. We've talked about it and I think we're going to take the plunge and try without a condom. For me, I'm hoping for that blissful moment after sex where we're sweaty, embracing each other and I can feel his semen in me or coming out of me all warm/sticky (sorry for the detail if it offends).
somniumdraconae 12th-Dec-2011 12:32 am (UTC)
I just want to say, to the last few words of this post:


With stuff like this, there's pretty much never a worry about offending on VP. I mean, yeah, there's those of us who don't like the same things others like. I'll admit, I shuddered a little at the thought of cum in my hair. But that's MY opinion. I know just because I think its gross, doesn't mean everyone does - obviously, you and loads of other women on here totally dig it! and good for you!!

I probably totally dig something you think is gross too!! :) and hopefully when I post about it sometime, you'll be supportive and won't go EEWWWW at me hahaha :D

anyway. tl;dr, safespace and all that, :)
lilpaige 11th-Dec-2011 11:05 pm (UTC)
*like* my first thought exactly.
tsemed_chemed 11th-Dec-2011 11:22 pm (UTC)
I have only had one relationship where I regularly had intercourse with a semen-having man, and that was in the spring of 2009, and we used a condom every single time we had sex, but I STILL have fantasies about ordering him to take the condom off and come inside of me, despite the fact that I am currently in a monogamous relationship with a woman.
teasailor 12th-Dec-2011 12:03 am (UTC)
When I was in a monogamous long term relationship, we didn't use condoms. I really like it when someone cums inside me. It's the closeness of it that is enjoyable for me. I'm dating around now, and do definitely miss that aspect of sex, but protection comes first.
naked_beauty_21 12th-Dec-2011 01:24 am (UTC)
What was the website, out of curiosity?
weightofourlove 12th-Dec-2011 06:35 am (UTC)
I want to know the website, too! :) Also, I like having my boyfriend cum inside me, and reading your description of "that blissful moment after sex where we're sweaty, embracing each other and I can feel his semen in me or coming out of me all warm/sticky" made me feel all warm and tingly. It sounds so nice!
gardensatnight 12th-Dec-2011 05:11 am (UTC)
Hi Janechido -

I think that what begintohope and knittinggoddess (correct me if I'm putting the wrong words in your mouths) were trying to get across is that if you're attracted to your boyfriend, and experimenting with having sex without condoms for the first time, then it's perfectly normal to find any aspect of that attractive or enticing. Don't worry about what's "normal" as long as it's good for you, and safe for you and your partner, then go for it!
knittinggoddess 13th-Dec-2011 12:59 am (UTC)
Haha, my only contribution was a pretentious reference to the selfish gene. But I agree with your summary!
ktbugsmom 12th-Dec-2011 11:54 pm (UTC)
It's very normal. We never use a condom and having his semen inside of me is a HUGE turn on!
firelie 13th-Dec-2011 06:23 am (UTC)
I get off on that, too. So does my boyfriend. It's the only time I approve of making a massive, slippery mess. :D
shell88015 13th-Dec-2011 05:56 pm (UTC)
It's a turn on for me also. My fiance has always been of the pull out persuasion, but when I told him how much I enjoyed him not pulling out that's all we have done. We both enjoy it... As some others commented, being "normal" or "abnormal" doesn't really matter. If it's something you both enjoy then its normal for you!
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