9:24 pm - 04/27/2010

too wet? & circumcised vs uncircumcised question..

Lately when I am having sex or having a solo session (even a 2 minute quickie) I get SUPER lubricated down there. Solo-sess I don't mind so much because I don't get off through insertion so the decrease in friction doesn't cause issues there but during sex it just gets a bit outrageous! Like it is just a MESS. The boyfriend really seems to enjoy it (probably thinks it has to do with his abilities haha) and but it makes it less pleasurable for me when I can't feel him after a few minutes because it is so soaked. He also is uncircumcised so it is already low on the friction down there. I know we could pause and get a towel to dry it down a bit but besides that is there any cure for this? Also, is there any cause of this? Should I be concerned? I used to remain quite during masturbation and my partner and I have been having regular sex for 3 months so the novelty has slightly worn down so I don't really think that particularly HE is the reason (although he likes to think he is), it seems more of a personal condition o_O.

on a different note-
Do you prefer circumcised or uncircumcised men? Also, if you care to share, why one or the other?

Thanks Yall <3
mrar 28th-Apr-2010 01:37 am (UTC)
I prefer uncircumcised in theory but that's mostly because I think routine circumcision is unethical.

But in reality I've been with so few uncircumcised men that I really can't make a comparison on a sexual basis.
agata 28th-Apr-2010 01:45 am (UTC)
I totally agree with routine circumcision being unethical. I'm so glad that that's not the case in Canada.
kaowolfie 28th-Apr-2010 02:28 am (UTC)
I'm in the same boat as you. I think cosmetic mutilation has no place in a just society that respects bodily autonomy, but because it's routine in the US and I've only had sex with one man*, I've never tried out an uncircumsized model.
fireaphid 28th-Apr-2010 03:28 am (UTC)
Ditto!
svexsal 28th-Apr-2010 01:41 am (UTC)
I can go either way on the circ/uncirc route. However with uncircumcised, I feel the movement is more fluid.
agata 28th-Apr-2010 01:42 am (UTC)
Regarding the circumcised/uncircumcised question - all my partners (well 3) had been uncircumcised until I met my current partner who is circumcised. Initially I did not like the appearance of the circumcised penis at all, and it just didn't seem to be as fun as the uncircumcised ones (where the skin moves). Current [circumcized] partner and I have been together for almost 2 years and apart from appearance I don't find there to be much difference at all.
thisandthat 28th-Apr-2010 02:09 am (UTC)
My partner is intact and is the only man I've had intercourse with, so I can't really tell you comparatively... From what I understand there is a difference in sensation between circumcised vs. intact. Personally, we never have to use lube for PIV sex and not because I get super wet, I believe his foreskin is awesome for that reason. ;)
eunicemcgee 28th-Apr-2010 02:15 am (UTC)
I've never noticed any kind of difference (other than appearance-wise) between circumcised and uncircumcised penises.
1girl 28th-Apr-2010 02:33 pm (UTC)
Yeah, neither have I. Absolutely zero difference. I am currently with an uncircumcised partner, but the vast majority of my past partners have been circumcised. I guess handjobs are a little easier with an uncircumcised partner, but other than that, the sex feels the same. I don't have much of an opinion on the matter, and if I ever had a son, I would probably leave the whole decision up to the father, although I tend to be more inclined to think uncircumcised is the way to go.
ktnzgtklws 28th-Apr-2010 02:38 am (UTC)
The two men I had sex with that were uncircumcised, I noticed a marked increase in the amount of UTI's, compared to the two men that were circumcised. Did the usual run for the bathroom after sex with all of them, too. No dietary differences, no water intake differences, and all were what I would call normal when it came to bathing frequency or other hygeine concerns. The only thing I can figure is that thier not being cut somehow influenced the probability for my getting a UTI. Also, the only YI I've ever had occured after sleeping with one of the uncircumcised men. Coincidence? Probably, but I don't really know. Yay for ance-data! :-P
Sensation wise, I don't know that there really was enough of a difference to say that one is just SOOO much better/worse than the other. I think I prefer the feel of circumcised a fraction more, and I certainly prefer the look of cicumcised, and I don't mind going down on them nearly as much.
But in the grand scheme of things, a joystick is a joystick. Give me a good brain anyday. ;-)
kort_ni 28th-Apr-2010 03:57 pm (UTC)
this comment exactly. Down to the anec-data!
teh_riaz 28th-Apr-2010 03:10 am (UTC)
I VASTLY prefer uncircumcised. not only on principle, but because the nice glide from that bed of skin makes sex more like a well oiled machine rather than umm... a broom handle in pudding? wow that's terrible, sorry for that :P

incidentally, did you know that ribbed condoms are actually emulating the sensation of a naturally rolling-back foreskin? thought that was interesting.
underdog_ontop 28th-Apr-2010 05:12 am (UTC)
a broom handle in pudding?

ah hahah not gonna lie sometimes i've felt like that. otherwise i can't really tell the difference, especially with condoms.
queensugar 28th-Apr-2010 03:17 am (UTC)
I vastly prefer sex with an intact partner, for a number of reasons, not the least of which is that I find that the foreskin's theorized function of facilitating penetration is very true to my experience -- its rolling action helps ease penetration, and I find it also helps maintain lubrication inside the vagina better. To my body, it makes a profound difference in how comfortable and enjoyable sex is.

There are very many other reasons, but that's the one that's the most directly based on my more practical experience.
rockstarbob 28th-Apr-2010 03:44 am (UTC)
My experience has been similar to queensugar's.

The foreskin is a complicated organ (it's not just an irrelevant piece of skin) that serves 12 different known functions. It's not so different from the clitoris, actually. Not only do men benefit from being intact, but their female partners do, too:

One of the primary functions in the design of the penis is to preclude dry and painful intercourse. The foreskin “decreases abrasion and loss of fluid to the female.” (http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/pref.htm)

Pretty fascinating, really!

Have you felt that you produced excessive lubrication with previous partners? Because it seems to me that it's entirely possible that the decrease in the loss of fluid due to your current partner's intact status could be contributing to the sensation. It's also possible that his foreskin facilitates intercourse to the point that it doesn't seem like you're "feeling it" as much. Do any of those things resonate with you?

BTW, here's a link to a page with graphic illustrations of how the adult intact penis functions during sex, if you're curious:

http://www.cirp.org/pages/anat/
muffincakedemon 28th-Apr-2010 03:36 am (UTC)
I prefer uncircumcised. I like the appearance more as well as the smoother feel during sex (it also feels more fun when giving head). The most fun part for me is from the men I've encountered uncut men are much more sensitive and I like to give my partner omg I can't walk orgasms and sensation instead of just regular ones.
gatehorse 28th-Apr-2010 04:14 am (UTC)
I prefer uncircumcised, but that may be because my first boyfriend was uncut and I haven't been with a lot of men. I don't think there's a difference during PIV, but I liked that handjobs didn't require lube. And, well, he was my first and I really liked him. Unfortunately for me, I'll probably eventually end up with someone who is circumcised, due to my religion. Obviously I'm not opposed to dating outside my religion, but that's pretty much where I've been looking lately, because I do think it would make a long term relationship easier, and that's more important to me than a sexual preferance that doesn't make a huge difference.
cheesybunny 28th-Apr-2010 04:29 am (UTC)
I like circumcised and uncircumsized both in different ways... I like how circumcised looks and it seems easier for oral, but uncircumcised is great for handjobs... as for intercourse I could go either way.

I think in general I don't like the idea of circumcision in ways that people above described.
apricotflower 28th-Apr-2010 04:31 am (UTC)
I honestly can't comment on the circumcised question because in my culture no one is cut, and I seriously doubt that anyone even sees the point of it. That being said, I don't have any basis for comparison.
nightmer 28th-Apr-2010 06:58 am (UTC)
Good luck with the lube problem, from what I've heard excess wetness/dryness seems to be hormonal so I don't know what would change that.

I'd been with my boyfriend three months before I realized he was uncircumcised and then felt rather dumb, as pretty much all (erect) penises I've seen IRL and in porn have been cut. So aesthetically I apparently neither care nor notice, and I haven't had a chance to sample the other version. Most girls I know who dislike intact complain about the look, and I just don't understand that.
sand_woman 28th-Apr-2010 09:17 am (UTC)
This happens to me. When it does, we usually add extra things to the penetration - I have a small dildo that can fit alongside a penis, for example, or move to fingers/fisting for a bit which seems to "use up" the lubrication, or we move to anal sex while I masturbate, because I really like that too. I guess we could also move to oral sex for a bit, but it's not occurred to me at the time.

I've not come across a real-life circumcised penis, so this is based off pictures and information I have garnered, but I like uncircumcised because I tend to play with foreskins a lot and it's a lot of fun. I also like the feeling during sex, although I think with a condom on I would not be able to tell the difference.

kiyouki_kitten 28th-Apr-2010 03:59 pm (UTC)
I have a strong preference for circumcised... my experience (albeit limited) with uncut penises is that they smell funny, often have schmegma-issues to work around, and are more prone to injury & irritation during rougher sessions & oral.

As for over-lubrication; If you smoke pot, it might help. Dry-mouth type side-effects have been known to occur in my nethers. (I think Dan Savage also offered this advice to a reader once.)
nomad____ 28th-Apr-2010 06:30 pm (UTC)
the weird thing is I have been smoking a lot more lately than normal the past few months since I have been having this issue. I do get dry mouth side effects but still uberwet down there o_O :P but thanks, maybe if I didn't smoke I'd be a whole lot wetter!
mirmarmelade 28th-Apr-2010 05:54 pm (UTC)
Althoug my experience with both cut and intact men are limited, I prefer intact. The first time I had a circumsized penis in my hand, I had no idea what to with it, since (in my experience) the foreskin plays a very large role in pleasuring. It also seems to me that the head of a circumsized penis is less sensitive.
sonarafaey 28th-Apr-2010 06:27 pm (UTC)
Circumcised, by default. I've only been with two guys, and both of them were cut. I've never even seen an uncut one in person (only photos). However, if I ever have sons I don't plan on having them circumcised.
strivingtoohard 28th-Apr-2010 07:49 pm (UTC)
I've been with 4 guys. Three were circumcised and one wasn't. The one who wasn't was the best partner I've had but I think it was more technique than the fact he had a foreskin. If you love a guy, it shouldn't matter whether he has a foreskin or not.
stone0804 Circumcision and Rights16th-Aug-2012 06:20 pm (UTC)
The replies here are not true. The work of anticircs goes through and through what is said. They gather together lots of people who say that circumcision is awful.

I am circumcised. My sons are. My father and grandfather are. This is not Jewish and Islamic circumcision. We are Protestants. In high school and college just about all males are circumcised. I have never heard anything against circumcision. In USA culture 95% of all families have their sons circumcised. There is no pain anymore. Hygiene is simplified. Many different bacterial and viral diseases are prevented.

Circumcision and uncircumcision are decided by families. E.g.,most Latinos do not have their boys circumcised. I respect that. But I will never listen to ignorance in a minority group of mentally sick persons. I will not be pushed around. My rights, spiritual and secular, are mine.

Edited at 2012-08-16 06:22 pm (UTC)
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