3:51 pm - 01/09/2010

Shaving 'down there'

Yes, I might feel a bit stupid for asking this question but there are no dumb questions.

I'm 20 years old and I have never shaved down there. But I have trimmed down there with scissors. Is this something that your mother tells you how to do or what? I have not much knowledge of how to go about shaving down there. Bathing suits/small bikinis have not really been my thing due to this.

I guess my questions is how you all do it, as in what is YOUR routine? Doesn't it itch the first time you shave? How often do you shave, what products do you use, and what techniques do you use to get to every area of hair? Any other tips would be very helpful. Thank you.
meredith_eats 9th-Jan-2010 09:07 pm (UTC)
I've had pretty good results with a men's beard and mustache trimmer, although my objective is more to keep things under control than to go completely bare. I do have a tendency to get little red bumps, especially at the spot where my legs meet my groin, and I've found Bikini Zone effective help.
darlahood 9th-Jan-2010 09:31 pm (UTC)
Why do you feel like you should shave?
sofaking_lame 9th-Jan-2010 10:04 pm (UTC)
crotch hair hanging out of a bathing suit isnt too attractive
jenwrites 9th-Jan-2010 10:37 pm (UTC)
This is why my bathing suit is a bikini top and a pair of trunks. They make women's trunks now, which are really cute, but men's trunks have pockets, which rocks!
jix 10th-Jan-2010 04:31 am (UTC)
also they have cute skirt bottoms, love those.
frolicnaked 10th-Jan-2010 05:46 am (UTC)
I don't tend to notice folks' crotches when I'm swimming or beaching, so this very well may be true, and I've just never noticed it before. That said, given that I've never noticed it, it's possible that some other people generally don't, either.

I totally support removing (or not) one's body hair as one sees fit. I just have never made a connection, bikini or no, between someone's pubic hair and whether or not the appearance they created was attractive.
gatehorse 9th-Jan-2010 10:23 pm (UTC)
I don't know about the OP, but my partner and I find it unpleasant to discover pubic hair in our mouths during oral sex. I also think he likes the shaved look better, and it doesn't make a different to me, so why not shave? And I prefer the smooth look when I wear bathing suits. And it's less messy during my period (looking into cups now, but for the moment, I'm still using pads.) Otherwise, I'd be far too lazy to shave, especially because I don't like when it gets irritated and I know the hair does have a purpose.
fireaphid 10th-Jan-2010 01:03 am (UTC)
Not exactly on topic (and I don't think this is a place to question the O.P's motivations), but my guess is that this is what the O.P.'s mom would have said if she'd tried to bring it up, and the same goes for all the commenters who said their mothers never told them about shaving. Pubic hair grooming is a cultural ritual that wasn't as prevalent in the past, and despite the fact that I have no interest in it, I don't think it's fair to judge anyone for choosing to shave (or not shave).
nonprofit_whore 10th-Jan-2010 02:39 am (UTC)
Because she wants to?
frolicnaked 10th-Jan-2010 05:43 am (UTC)
Obviously, I don't speak for the OP on this, but I'm not sure where oceanhotel said zie felt like zie "should" shave. It may be that zie feels pressured, yes, but it may also be due to curiosity or personal preference.
pinkdagger 9th-Jan-2010 09:51 pm (UTC)
I don't think my mom has really said a thing acknowledging the entire genital area, let alone how to groom it. :P My mom doesn't even need to shave her legs or underarms, so the whole shaving thing had to come at my own exploration.

I started shaving like 6 years ago, at first out of curiousity but continued to avoid grossness during my period while I was still a pad user (currently and forevermore a cup user). The first few times, it itched like crazy and I had some irritation. I used to shave everyday and I think that in part toughened up the skin so I can shave in multiple directions and go over the same area without killing the skin (although obviously this isn't something I recommend, especially for a first timer), and I don't experience irritation anymore. I've downed it to shaving every couple weeks due to laziness.

I actually only shave the labial area and since it lasts longer and I like the feel better, I epilate the bikini zone and pubic mound. I've heard and imagined some pretty terrible horror stories about epilating lower and getting stuff caught in the tweezers, YEE-OUCH. Oh, and I shave with grape seed oil since it's rich in vitamin E but a thin oil that won't do too much damage to the razor (I use disposables) but still acts as a good lubricant.

If the bathing suit thing is your only issue with pubic hair, you don't have to do away with it all. Cleaning up around the bikini zone with something like a beard trimmer should keep it under good control.
alafaye 9th-Jan-2010 09:56 pm (UTC)
If I may ask--do you only use grape seed oil?

I use a foam shaving cream, but want to use something that has less chemicals in it.

Do you also use grape seed oil to shave elsewhere too?
pinkdagger 9th-Jan-2010 10:02 pm (UTC)
Right now, yeah I only use grape seed oil. I've tried sunflower, safflower, extra virgin olive oil, men's shaving gel and women's shaving gel. I've found it to be the best among all others in consistency and visibility (I could never see if I was shaving actual hair with gels that foamed up and they just got in the way) so I stick to it pretty exclusively.

I also use it on my thighs now, and used to use it on my lower legs and underarms, which I now epilate, and all went well. Definitely do a patch test though just to make sure your skin doesn't react badly to it. While I recommend it a ton, it's not the be all end all for everyone. :) And if it doesn't work out, then you have a healthy cooking oil replacement, lol.
alafaye 9th-Jan-2010 10:09 pm (UTC)
thanks!
calyxia 9th-Jan-2010 11:13 pm (UTC)
Yep, I started trimming when I was in my early teens, because it hurts so much when you get hair caught up with a maxipad's sticky side! Things no one ever warns you about....
gatehorse 9th-Jan-2010 10:11 pm (UTC)
No one taught me-it's just something I figured out on my own over time. I started by shaving my bikini line because I hate it when I wear a bathing suit and hair shows. After I got my first boyfriend, I started shaving completely because he preferred the way it looked, and it was more pleasant for oral sex.

I use my normal bar soap and a regular disposable razor, but I have used shaving cream in the past. Doesn't make a difference to me. You might want to make sure the hair is trimmed short if you can, because it will be eaiser to shave...and then just go for it. Use your fingers and find positions with your legs that will allow you to stretch the skin, especially in creases and around the outer labia, so you can see the hair and have a flat surface to shave. I start by going with the grain, and then if I'm seeing my partner, I'll shave against, to make it smoother.

I don't use lotions or anything afterwards, but I have found that one of the best ways to prevent irritation, red bumps, and ingrown hairs is to sleep without underwear for at least one night, preferably two or three. And shave as little as possible, because the more you shave, the more irritated it may get. As a general rule, I always wait at least 3-5 days between shaves. If I'm not swimming and not seeing my partner, I do a maintenence shave maybe every 2 weeks, to keep the hair short enough so that it's easier to shave for when the appearance counts. If I'm seeing my partner, I shave completely, but if I'm only going to be swimming and not seeing a partner, then I just shave my bikini line.

I hope that helps!
adorable_sunday 9th-Jan-2010 10:28 pm (UTC)
I used scissors to remove most of the hair (the first time), and then shaved with hot water, sensitive skin shaving cream, and a sensitive skin venus razor. For my bikini line, I think it's easiest to shave with a razor, but to remove all the hair from the trickier areas, I use this:

http://www.amazon.com/Finishing-Touch-Lumina-Lighted-Pivoting/dp/B000FRVA8O/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1263075702&sr=8-1


It is great for upkeep. I use it about once a week...I just use it as a dry shave, and then after I'll get in the bathtub and use a shaving cream and razor for any areas I missed and do the bikini line with the venus razor. But the finishing touch is great for the really tricky areas when I'm removing all the hair. It even has a light on it which makes it easier to see every hair, haha!

Hope that helped!
mrar 9th-Jan-2010 11:58 pm (UTC)
I learned from the internet and experimentation.

I used to shave the whole thing but I don't like that look anymore, so now I shave my bikini line and "Business area," leaving just a triangle on the mound which I trim with scissors periodically. If I haven't shaved in awhile I shave with the grain until most of the hair is cut down, then go against the grain for the final time. I open my outer labia one side at a time and very gently shave up it to get those hairs, but only once otherwise it causes way too much irritation. You really can't get EVERYTHING.

I use cheap conditioner as my shaving cream, I use VO5 Free Me Freesia, and a 3-blade razor. I can't use disposable razors on any of my skin, they cut me and cause a lot more irritation.

I get ingrown hairs and annoyed bumps which are completely prevented by using a 2% salicylic acid astringent once a day after shaving.

To prevent irritation I only shave that area 1-2 times a week at the most.
odalisque 10th-Jan-2010 01:53 am (UTC)
Everyone says it itches when you shave, but now that I've started shaving it itches when I get lazy and the hair gets pretty grown out. Shaving is a relief to the itchies!
odalisque 10th-Jan-2010 01:59 am (UTC)
As for what I do: I trim with mustache scissors if need be, and then shave with women's shaving cream and a man razor (Gilette Fusion - love it!) I start out with the grain and shave against the grain in some parts (like the hair on my labia that is softer than the hair in the surrounding areas). I leave a little landing strip because I'm afraid of shaving near my clit. I haven't had any problems (I get wayyyyy more ingrown hairs if I shave against the grain on my inner thighs!) but I think I am pretty un-irritable down there.
sigma_kappa 10th-Jan-2010 03:04 am (UTC)
My mom just told me `You dont need to shave down there because it only grows where its supposed to... and is covered with clothes, etc.` Clearly, she was and still is highly uncomfortable with her body and of course, I have a forest growing from my bellybutton and down. So needless to say I did not follow dear old mom`s advice and I shave the whole shabang.

Umm, the first few times you will be very very sensitive in the area because you are used to kind of a barrier with the hair.. (at least this is my experience... it may be and usually is different from person to person) and while I love the feel of a close shave, the only way I can obtain this is by shaving against the grain, which produces horrible ingrown hair issues for about a week afterward. I shave with the grain (and just deal with a slight stubble and no ingrown hairs afterwards)

I know I should probably invest in my own electric beard shaver thing, or steal my partner`s, but meh its just easier to use my 3 blade razor in the shower. and use a good shaving cream!!!!
fuckinhippie 10th-Jan-2010 03:18 am (UTC)
"I have a forest growing from my bellybutton and down"

I thought I was abnormal for the longest time because I had hair on my lower stomach... I always thought that only guys had the happy trail! Apparently it's a lot more common than I ever realized.
limonchiki 10th-Jan-2010 04:18 pm (UTC)
XD I don´t have a forest, but I do have a (very slim) kind of happy trail; it starts under my bellybutton and then kind of stops.
A good friend of mine (also a girl) has one too; so I guess it really is more common than we think..
booksofmagic 10th-Jan-2010 03:46 am (UTC)
My boyfriend dislikes it, but I go bald eagle. I love the way it looks, it feels cleaner, and uh...lube can't dry in hair that isn't there. :P That is mega uncomfortable. I shave every other day or so in the shower, towards the grain. When I first got rid of it (at 14 or so?) I used scissors to trim it down and then shaved the rest. Bad bumps the first time and NONE ever sense. I shave with plain (hot) water.
My mom seems to think I'm eccentric for shaving at all down there.
As for how to get to everything, spread your legs and be VERY careful. Hold the skin tight to avoid snagging (and thus cuts).
beatific 10th-Jan-2010 03:49 am (UTC)
HAha I posted something just like this almost a year ago (I'm the same age range as you and it's just SO CONFUSING x_X)

My suggestion is: if you're nervous about it or unsure, start small. I didn't go all bare right away, I just trimmed and then shaved (first with a beard trimmer, then with a razor) until there was a smaller patch of hair (that wouldn't stick out from bikinis) and then trimmed that hair so it was nice and neat.

Eventually I started shaving all of it off-I really like the smoothness of it, though it does give you more of a camel toe (I have no idea why but it's just something I've noticed) with some materials of underwear/bikini bottoms.

EITHER WAY! HAhaha I just use a normal razor and soap/body wash. just make sure if you're using a body wash that it doesn't get all up in your junk as I hear that's not really too good for it. They also have special bikini line trimmers and whatnot now too, at drugstores.

I hope this helps--the biggest thing is just upkeep. My skin is pretty tough so I don't really deal with ingrown hairs or redness, but it does sometimes itch when it's growing out. Slightly irritating but not too bad.
misspaigeb 10th-Jan-2010 04:21 am (UTC)
First I wait for the hair to grow pretty long because it can get irritated if I try to shave too often! Usually I exfoliate my "mound" with sugar/olive oil scrub and then rinse it off. Then I use hair conditioner to shave my bits and it works pretty well. I would suggest just shaving like a strip or something, or just your bikini line first. It can get kind of tricky shaving on the lips and stuff and NOT a place you want to knick yourself, so start small!
mouideet 10th-Jan-2010 06:59 am (UTC)
and another good tip, after shave... i know it sounds weird cuz we're girls, but i used the men's gillete aftershave and it feels so much better. As for the itchiness, every time after i shower, i either use the aftershave or vaseline aloe lotion (spelling?). its in a green bottle. Oh as for the aftershave i get the one with the cooling effect so it feels good... i'm not too allergic to anything so it didn't bother me but check the ingredients in case you're sensitive to some stuff... And after a while, the lotion stops the red bumps for me... and when it doesn't i just tweeze it out manually =] i've been addicted to tweesing lately
bernthewitch 10th-Jan-2010 09:59 am (UTC)
Great response!

I shave because I like the feeling of bare skin, it's a real turn on for me personally, nothing to do with my husband, he like me however I turn up :-)

When I do shave (and it's been a while, I'm trying the au-naturale thing), I go with a lot of lather from soap and one of those guys shaver thingys - the one with like four or five blades that's REALLY sharp. I shave against the grain, sitting on the edge of the bath so I can get into all the nooks and crannies... so to speak... I'm not exactly the smallest of people (mostly due to my double G cup boobs) so some acrobatics is needed. If I'm having trouble, I balance a mirror and then go from there. I haven't let my husband shave me yet, although that can apparently be a bonding experience. I'm just not into him seeing me shave for whatever reason :-)

With the red bumps - it doesn't happen all the time but if it does I moisturise with aquaeous cream or aloe vera cream, that sorts it out.
campfire_light 10th-Jan-2010 02:42 pm (UTC)
I don't shave, because I think it's a lot of unnecessary work. Also, I've only ever had ONE boyfriend who preferred it shaved, and he was...let's just say "not a good boyfriend."

My routine is simple. I trim with scissors just to keep it neat. I can't stand when it gets too long. It also helps because it makes it easier for my boyfriend to go down on me. He would do it either way, but hair just gets in the way sometimes. So I keep it short, just with a pair of scissors.

In the summer months I'll use Coochy shave cream, which is even available on Amazon! http://www.amazon.com/Coochy-Original-Rash-Free-Shaving-Cream-Original/dp/B000JUZI5S Though I recommend buying a smaller bottle at first, to make sure you like it. I shave with the grain (against = ouch) and I usually only shave my bikini area. Afterwards, I apply a small amount of unscented lotion to any area that I shaved to keep it from breaking out.

Simple. Hope this helps : )
campfire_light 10th-Jan-2010 02:43 pm (UTC)
And also, I don't think I've ever been itchy as a result of shaving. As long as I remember to put on a little lotion, I never have any problems.
creativexangst 10th-Jan-2010 04:45 pm (UTC)
My mom was shocked when she found out I shaved, so no, didnt learn from her :)

Just go at it with a razor and be careful, i guess. I shave it all off, and I've been doing it for years. I shave every three days or so, unless I dont feel like it and I'll go around a week without shaving before I do...sometimes a month...yep, no real routine.
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