12:08 am - 12/22/2009

Pain during Doggy-style

Pain during certain sexual positions... particularly doggy style. I feel a consistent subtle pain right above the panty line/lower abdomen while we do it. It isn't enough to want to stop but it has been going on for months so my boyfriend is worried. He is afraid we could be causing long-term damage if we continue to have sex in this position if it causes me pain. (I never really complained about it but since it has been going on for a while still he is very concerned.) I figure I just need to position myself differently and I've kind of tried but not successfully.

So I was wondering if we could be causing permanent damage?
And if anyone else has had this problem and solved it using a different position/technique?

Thanks so much!
protox 22nd-Dec-2009 05:11 am (UTC)
Not any advice, but this has been my sexual life. I always have pain with almost every position, doggy especially.
curlet 22nd-Dec-2009 02:55 pm (UTC)
Well, I'd defintely try a different position or angle. I mean, the other day I felt a little pain when I was on the edge of the bed with my feet on his shoulders and him standing on the side of the bed (I don't know the names of these positions). But, when he put a pillow underneath my butt there was no pain. And, if it still continues to hurt after experimentation maybe an ob/gyn could help.
arularia 22nd-Dec-2009 05:29 am (UTC)
I have pain sometimes during doggie style which I've always attributed to my partner hitting my cervix. If I'm having trouble, I find it's generally worse when I drop my head and shoulder (as in, butt in the air, resting my head on the bed) and improves if I can keep my back straight. Sometimes arching my back and rocking my hips forward a little also helps. It's something to experiment with.

If the pain isn't bad enough that you need to stop, then I'd say you're not doing any actual damage.
curlet 22nd-Dec-2009 02:58 pm (UTC)
That is actually how I position myself (butt in the air and head resting on the bed) so I'll try to either arch my back or press my chest down on a pillow (as some people said that helped them).
fireaphid 22nd-Dec-2009 06:36 am (UTC)
I agree with arularia. Some positions can get him particularly deep, so he might be hitting your cervix, and it's pretty common for that to be painful. If the pain doesn't outweigh the pleasure, it's really unlikely to be doing any damage to you, but if it's impacting your ability to enjoy sex, you might want to experiment with shallower penetration and positions that facilitate that.
curlet 22nd-Dec-2009 03:01 pm (UTC)
Okay, well my boyfriend is comforted to hear that it probably isn't damaging and I'll be sure to experiment tonight.
christiespace 22nd-Dec-2009 06:38 am (UTC)
I also experience pain when on top as well as doggie style. Mine is due to cysts on my ovaries. It is worth checking into at your next appointment. I was told that it would not hurt anything important but changing positions may help.
curlet 22nd-Dec-2009 03:06 pm (UTC)
I would definitely try to avoid hitting those. Kevin, my boyfriend, knows someone who damaged her cervix because her partner kept hitting it so he was worried. Changing positions until it becomes completely comfortable seems like the best solution to me.
argyle_skull 22nd-Dec-2009 06:51 am (UTC)
I keep my legs together instead of spreading them and that tends to help me with the pain!
curlet 22nd-Dec-2009 03:07 pm (UTC)
Okay, I'll try that but I'm afraid it'll make me tighter. :P But, that might make it harder to bump into the cervix.
queensugar 22nd-Dec-2009 07:42 am (UTC)
I would first and foremost suspect a cervix-bumping. It can be pretty common in that position, as it allows for deeper penetration than others, and for me, a cervix-bumping feels exactly like pain sort of deep in that area and through the lower stomach.

So one thing to try would be to ask your partner to try and control his depth a little better -- to be cautious about how deep he penetrates. When my husband and I do doggy (which is rare, because of this exact issue), we've found he can only comfortably go about halfway the length of his penis, so he just has to be cautious about that.

If it is indeed a cervix bumping, it is very unlikely to cause any serious damage -- it's quite tough and basically designed for just that type of activity. But pain during penetration can sometimes be caused by other things too, so if you're concerned, speak to a health care professional.
curlet 22nd-Dec-2009 03:11 pm (UTC)
I think that is a great description so you've confirmed the consensus of cervix bumping.

It is comforting to know that its a bit resilient. :]
mirmarmelade 22nd-Dec-2009 09:37 pm (UTC)
I'm joining the chorus, he's probably hitting your cervix. My boyfriend and I sometimes have the same problem, depending on the time in my cycle and the position. When he's penetrating from behind, it sometimes helps me to tilt my hips down a little by rounding my lower back, it makes for a different entrance angle and I think it also makes his 'way in' longer.
curlet 23rd-Dec-2009 01:10 am (UTC)
Yeah, the cervix actually shifts during your cycle but I'm kind of oblivious to that. Interesting, it might take a couple tries but I'l give that a go.
aruinedepiphany 22nd-Dec-2009 11:56 pm (UTC)
I've had really intense pain that usually starts during sex, often from deep penetration, but gets worse afterwards, when I'm trying to relax. I think that some of the pain does probably come from hitting the cervix, but for me, I believe that the intense pain afterwards (relatively rare, but happens occasionally) could be due to the prostaglandins in his semen (we don't use a condom). Makes me cramp up and it's similar to the feeling of having gas trapped in your stomach... that achey feeling.
Prostaglandins.. blech :P
curlet 23rd-Dec-2009 01:08 am (UTC)
Ah, I've never heard of that. We always use a condom so that has never happened to me but it is kind of weird/interesting. :P
curlet 23rd-Dec-2009 01:06 am (UTC)
Well, that sensation of having to pee is definitely g-spot simulation so if you keep going and let go you'll probably have a vaginal orgasm.
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