12:27 pm - 09/02/2009

Sex with a curved penis... suggestions?

So, I met this guy I like. We kinda knew each other but we spent a week together as volunteers in a tent city of a town affected by an earthquake.
Due to the situation (no condoms, no privacy), we couldn't have a full sex act, just a bit of outercourse and oral sex.
He has a very curved (upwards) penis, the kind of penis which is perfect for g-spot stimulation with the missionary position, and he confessed he's never been able to have anal sex or even vaginal sex in doggy style.
We're meeting again soon and I'd like him to try new things... what can I do? I don't like having limited position choices but I'm not used to a curved penis and I don't know how to deal with it.
sitopanaki 2nd-Sep-2009 10:57 am (UTC)
My boyfriend's penis is very curved to the right. The doctor wasn't sure whether it might stop him having sex. Well, it doesn't and we can do everything "uncurved" couples can do :)
elialshadowpine 2nd-Sep-2009 10:58 am (UTC)
My boyfriend also has an extremely curved and rigid penis. Usually with other guys I have been with, there is some amount of "flex" even when the penis is hard; there isn't with his. We still manage doggy style, but he has to be careful how far out he withdraws on the thrusts... otherwise he ends up smacking himself with his dick. (I'm bad. I giggle like hell when that happens.) I don't see why it would be impossible; it might take a bit of maneuvering, but it shouldn't be that difficult.
catartica 2nd-Sep-2009 12:11 pm (UTC)
I don't know, I never tried, but I guess he did (he's 30 and experienced) and never succeeded...
haptotrope 2nd-Sep-2009 03:15 pm (UTC)
Or maybe whomever he tried with wasn't terribly understanding or willing to try stuff out... you know folks and their penises can get discouraged easily.

you can also do things with pillows and the special pillows for sex... or a rolled up yoga mat (on the cheap) or a foam roller to life your hips. Or try lifting one leg while bent over a bed or a counter, or even when in missionary with your legs up, bring your legs together and to one side... to get the compression, and a nice rear view.
teri_lynn 2nd-Sep-2009 01:03 pm (UTC)
Sometimes it depends on the how you do doggy style. My hubby is curved upwards like you describe, and sometimes if the bed is too low or too high, it doesn't work. Try doggy style on several different surfaces to see if that doesn't help.
archangelbeth 2nd-Sep-2009 01:54 pm (UTC)
I'd second the "try in lots of different positions" advice, and seeing if there are angles (higher or lower) that would let the curve work with you. Do be aware, though, that it's possible there are positions he can't do without actual pain; if it's a choice between pain and limited positions (hopefully ones that are pleasurable to both people!), I'd pick the limited positions.

If it turns out that certain angles do work out, you may want to do a search on sex cushion -- various online places sell firm "cushions" (some are practically mattresses!) in cube or wedge shapes, for use in getting and maintaining helpful angles.

Good luck!
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