5:27 pm - 10/18/2008

My juices + his juices = fish

My boyfriend and I have recently gone to having sex without condoms. I'm using the NuvaRing, and we're both STD-free, so hooray.

EXCEPT...

The day after we have sex, my crotch reeks. Like seriously, it smells like fish right now. And it's not BV. Trust me, I've gotten BV ten times this past year. It's definitely from my juices intermingling with his. We are not juice compatible!

So my questions are...

How do I make my crotch...not smell? I rinsed offed my vulva and stuff this morning, but my boyfriend's junk has been steadily leaking out all day (ick), even though I thought I kegel-ed out most of it last night.

And if I can't do anything to get rid of the smell, I sometimes worry that other people can smell me. Have you ever stood next to someone and been like, "Ew, this person smells like crotch"? I never have, but I sometimes worry that I'm the only person with a stinky crotch and everyone can smell it. :(
xxaimsxx 19th-Oct-2008 12:42 am (UTC)
I don't really have any tips for getting rid of the smell, but I get the same smell after condom-less sex, even after showering, so you're not the only one =)
queensugar 19th-Oct-2008 12:43 am (UTC)
Yeah, this is really, really common -- I know tooooooooooons of us on VP have discussed the same thing happening to us.

For me, after sex when I go to the washroom, I just used to use my pelvic muscles to push out as much semen as possible (like you). Then sometimes I'd take a clean, wet finger and do a little once-around the inside of my vagina to pull out anything remaining.

That prevented a lot of the next-day-drip (though not all) and certainly minimized the rank-semen stank. It didn't entirely get rid of it, but it made it better and shorter-lasting.

If it's not BV, I'd be surprised if anyone who wasn't immediately in the area could smell it. Look at it this way, I've been around plenty of people who are sexually active, and I've never once noticed anyone smelling like sex who wasn't immediately post-sex.
xochiquetzl 19th-Oct-2008 12:52 am (UTC)
Yeah, that's the thing I hate about condomless PIV. I used to wear a maxi-pad to soak up the leakage (ew). Now I use my food allergies as an excuse to make the boy wear a condom. (It is possible that his semen contains substances I'm allergic to--it's usually more of a problem with shellfish or drug allergies, but I'd rather not take chances and avoid the fish smell and leakage at the same time.)

From what I've read, the smell is a pH thing--the vagina is usually very acidic and semen is very alkaline. I've never tried what queensugar suggests, but it sounds like a good suggestion!
acerzen 19th-Oct-2008 01:04 am (UTC)
with my ex, it did smell so bad that I KNEW people near me smelled it when in a circle at school, people suddenly moved away from me. This was the day after and after a shower, and no I did not have BV. After that, I was really careful about cleaning myself out, even using a warm water rinse out, or asking him to not ejaculate inside me. That semen stank was that strong.
righteousbean 19th-Oct-2008 01:15 am (UTC)
I don't have the same problem you do. I can kind of smell it, but it's never very strong.

Try using a wet cloth to kinda wash out your vagina as soon as you can after sex. See if it helps at all.

Edited at 2008-10-19 01:16 am (UTC)
carli410 19th-Oct-2008 01:22 am (UTC)
I know that douching isnt typically recomended, but would there be any harm in a quick plain water rinse to try and get all of the semen out?
krisssa 19th-Oct-2008 02:36 am (UTC)
yeah, me too. Ick!

I have also worried other people can smell it, but I LOL'd when you asked if anyone's ever stood by someone and thought, "this person smells like crotch!" b/c I haven't either. haha. B/O, yes. Crotch? Not so much.
indigodye 19th-Oct-2008 03:17 am (UTC)
I do a quick warm water douche with a clean syringe. Works great.
chocolita 19th-Oct-2008 03:39 am (UTC)
I usually take a mini-bath, like fill up the tub a few inches, and then put in a few teaspoons of baking soda. I do baking soda baths for my overacidic vagina anyway and they really help keep things fresh.
hug_whore 19th-Oct-2008 12:12 pm (UTC)
ohh i had never thought of using baking soda. does it irritate your bits at all?
chocolita 19th-Oct-2008 03:43 pm (UTC)
actually it really calms everything a lot. I prefer it to regular soap which definitely does irritates things.
a_tiny_goat 19th-Oct-2008 03:56 pm (UTC)
I suggest baths too.

I rarely shower, but take a bath almost daily. If I have had sex since my last bath, I too get the rank semen vaginal fluid smell. My boyfriend states he has never noticed it, even when I am lounging around in the nude, but I notice it and am less than fond of it.

Anyway, while in the bath, I either take a finger and scoop whatever is left in me out, or I shoot it out with my supervagina. I have a good time forcibly squirting semen and period blood, if I'm on my period. Try it, its a neat talent to acquire!
kkatie 19th-Oct-2008 04:18 am (UTC)
I have smelled the crotch sink, but I'm sure you are not that bad.

What I really have to say is, "OMG YOU HAVE A CEPHALOPOD ICON OMG"
turnitmyway 19th-Oct-2008 06:34 am (UTC)
sometimes my bf's semen and my vagina make nasty fish stink, sometimes they don't. Anyway, it isn't ever too strong, but my strategy is usually wipe off with a towel, pee, kegel and scoop out whatever's left, and hope for the best. I think the warm water douche strategy might be a good one for you to try. I dunno. But it's normal. I wouldn't worry.
archangelbeth 19th-Oct-2008 07:00 pm (UTC)
I may be nose-blind, but I have never noticed this with my spouse and myself. Mind, when we were using nothing was 8 or so years ago... The rest of the time, any ejaculation-sans-condom has been with a contraceptive sponge...

Working on that more-recent recollection, how about getting a small, soft sea-sponge or the like, and inserting that just prior to sex? It might absorb some of the semen, and then you could remove it, rinse it out for re-use, or -- depending on frugality requirements -- just toss it in the trash.

Good luck!
joy_73 Actually, I am more confused about your boyfriend dripping all day...14th-Jun-2013 10:12 pm (UTC)
I have never noticed anything like this with any of my girlfriends or with my wife of 8 years, but since so many responses show experiences similar to yours, I suppose it is not unnatural for you to stink. However, your boyfriend leaking out all day is NOT normal unless he has been horny all day in which case it would be pre-cum. I am male, btw, and not a single of my male friends has ever complained of something like this, not even when we were teenagers constantly thinking of you know what :p

Maybe you should ask your boyfriend to get a medical check up done.

And about the part where others can smell you - I don't know about post-intercourse situations, but one of my ex-girlfriends had a really strong smelling vagina, and I could always smell her when she was aroused or when she had her periods, even when I wasn't any closer to her than a man would be at, say, the bus stop. I actually liked her smell, though, and it wasn't a stink, but just a strong scent.

Edited at 2013-06-14 10:14 pm (UTC)
aescwynn Re: Actually, I am more confused about your boyfriend dripping all day...19th-Jul-2013 09:41 am (UTC)
She meant her boyfriend's semen was dripping out of her vagina the next day.
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