10:37 pm - 10/12/2008

hitting the cervix, how to avoid it?

i searched the past entries with no luck, so here goes. the mods can delete this if they'd like.

i lost my virginity about 3 weeks ago. when he gets about halfway in, maybe a little more, i swear that i can feel him hitting my cervix. it hurts, but not to the point where it's unbearable. i try to avoid it anyway because it's just uncomfortable. it feels almost like something vibrates in my body when he does it, which makes me feel that it is more than just vaginal wall. i've asked if it feels different and he claims that it doesn't. so is it a possibility that that is what could be going on, or is it just an area that hasn't been penetrated yet?

it's pretty annoying because we can't get in that far. is it normal/healthy to have my cervix so low? i'm currently ovulating and so it should be higher. i'm pretty petite (5'2", 106 lbs, 32" ribcage)and is it a possibility that my vagina is small too? i feel abnormal.

also, i found out today that the vagina actually extends past the cervix and that that said area is actually quite pleasurable. being on top is kind of hard and i have to sit up slightly to male missionary more comfortable. are there any positions that make reaching that area easier?

thanks for any help, it's really starting to annoy me, sorry if this is pointless.
ihave_themoon 13th-Oct-2008 03:00 am (UTC)
have you determined 100% that its your cervix and not your hymen?
random_angelic 13th-Oct-2008 03:08 am (UTC)
... I thought the hymen was within the first inch of the vagina?
chicago_doll 13th-Oct-2008 03:14 am (UTC)
i'm not sure. i've worn tampons ever since i was twelve and have had sex at least 6 times. wouldn't it be gone by now?

what does it feel like when you hit it?
queensugar 13th-Oct-2008 03:17 am (UTC)
The hymen wouldn't necessarily be gone -- hymeneal tissue can easily stick around for years.

That said, the hymen is actually part of the external anatomy -- it's positioned right around the entrance of the vagina. If penetration itself isn't uncomfortable for you, then your hymen is probably stretched or torn enough to facilitate comfortable entry.
random_angelic 13th-Oct-2008 03:21 am (UTC)
Oh, I'm not the OP. It's just that the above comment confused me.
literarygirl 13th-Oct-2008 03:08 am (UTC)
Like penis size, all vaginas are different sizes/depths, too. There just isn't much focus on that in this society because it's all internal, and it's all about the size of a man that gets the attention. But the important thing to remember is that it is all normal, and that there is nothing wrong with you!

It could very well be that your vagina is shallow, and that's okay. Mine is pretty shallow, and I have felt my cervix getting bumped, but it's not uncomfortable for me.

Since it is uncomfortable for you, I would suggest trying different positions to see what works. Different thrusting patterns can help too. And as for being on top, it can be tricky, particularly with a large height variation. I find riding on the bed to be very hard because I have no leverage help. But accidentally using the living room ottoman recently solved that. I have the best leverage now because I can freely move my feet on the floor. He does not move at all. I control the thrusting and overall movement.

So, perhaps trying something similar might help. Have fun experimenting and good luck!
queensugar 13th-Oct-2008 03:15 am (UTC)
The average depth of the vagina to the cervix, when not aroused, starts at about three inches. During full arousal, the average depth starts at five inches. Depending on how aroused you are, it's normal to have your cervix, ahem, well within striking range, so to speak.
anowyn 13th-Oct-2008 04:38 am (UTC)
Wow... I did not know that at all. You learn something new every day :D

We have inverse-woodys! *laughs like a school kid*
slave_stasha 13th-Oct-2008 03:37 am (UTC)
i sometimes can feel my cervix being bumped...but i enjoy it.

Maybe your not fully aroused? A little more foreplay might help and i agree with the comment above that suggested experimenting on the woman on top position.
ticklemepiink 13th-Oct-2008 04:04 am (UTC)
Maybe your guy is just kind of large? My guy is very large and girl on top position is soooo not good for us. It used to be great for me with other smaller guys, but it hits my cervix and does EXACTLY the vibrating thing...like you were describing. We have found the best positions for us are from behind over the bed, spooning, and sitting up indian style with me on his lap...this is also very passionate and sensual. Good luck!!
thebarkingdog 13th-Oct-2008 08:07 am (UTC)
To you and the OP and anyone else here...
Do you feel a pain on the sides like where your ovaries would be? If my BF goes in all the way I get pains in that area (never in the middle) He is definitely hitting something. It doesn't matter the position for me. I feel it almost every time, sometimes it's unbearable and other times it's mild. Do I have the same problem do you think?
vronwe 13th-Oct-2008 04:47 am (UTC)
Have your partner go super slow. Or, if you feel comfortable doing it, you can be on top, and then you control the speed. It might be kinda awkward the first time, but it can be fun. I love being on top. My boyfriend hits my cervix a lot, cuz he's pretty big, so being on top keeps me from being in too much pain. Good luck!
chicago_doll 13th-Oct-2008 06:59 am (UTC)
oh, we've tried haha
it is fun and it works, esp if he's still doing most of the work, but i stll can't go down that far and can't be as dominant as i'd like to be. he's pretty big and we'll have to keep trying. thanks!
roseant 13th-Oct-2008 05:44 am (UTC)
The first 3 or more times I had sex any hitting on my cervix hurt very much...
I think my body got used to getting aroused and all that. Now it doesn't hurt anymore.
Make sure you get enough foreplay.
reckloos 13th-Oct-2008 08:00 am (UTC)
i dont know if youre still wondering if its your hymen or not. but you could always feel around for yourself and decided. the cervix feels like it looks. a soft puffy cheerio facing downwards. usually its the full length of your middle finger into your vag.

and i get crazy pains at certain times of the month when i have sex. so bad ive almost fainted. my doctor suggests being more careful around ovulation and right before the period starts. also to take an aleve as it relaxes the uterus.

i personally feel that being on top hurt more, especially if i was sitting straight up, but leaning forward was more comfortable.

hope things are getting better!
wretched_snail 13th-Oct-2008 06:08 pm (UTC)
Your cervix moves up and down depending on where you are in your menstrual cycle. Before you get your period it's low.

But like others have said, it could be your hymen. I've been having sex on a regular basis for 5 years and I still have a piece of hymen left. It makes certain positions really uncomfortable.
mollypocketz 1st-Jan-2009 06:56 pm (UTC)
I have this problem too. He can get about and inch and a half in and then it can get extreamly painful! I didnt know that the cervix moved. So at what point of the cycle is it at its highest?
Thanks for any help.
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