7:47 pm - 07/31/2008

Clean Sex during period

I just started my period but want to explore options for having clean, comfortable sex. I read the memories on Instead Softcup, but it seemed like some people had problems with it (leakage and guy could feel it?). Does anyone have any advice on how to use it during sex most effectively?

What about sponges?

Anything else? Thanks!!!
tornattheelbo 1st-Aug-2008 03:09 am (UTC)
you have to get it sitting horizontally, and really it just takes practice to get it sitting correctly. If it's in properly he shouldn't be able to feel it, but i've found it can slip out of place sometimes and rub him uncomfortably, just take it out and re-insert, though.
nyxieflower 1st-Aug-2008 03:10 am (UTC)
I use a cup and it warned right in the directions to remove before intercourse. They aren't meant to be used during sex.
atalanta0jess 1st-Aug-2008 03:16 am (UTC)
Insteads are designed specifically to be good for use during intercourse. Reusable cups are really different from insteads, and are not.
moshfloorkiller 1st-Aug-2008 03:17 am (UTC)
that's for the bell shaped cups (diva cup, moon cup).
the instead cups aren't the same and are totally safe for having sex with.
moshfloorkiller 1st-Aug-2008 03:16 am (UTC)
i suggest having intercourse in the shower.
it's clean since you're well... showering!
it's always worked out quite well for me.
atalanta0jess 1st-Aug-2008 03:17 am (UTC)
I've used sponges before, and like them quite a lot. I can't feel them during sex, and although my partner can he doesn't seem to mind. If your flow isn't heavy (i.e. heavy enough to soak the sponge during sex) you should be able to have completely blood free sex with the sponge. :) The only problem is that for me, it can be hard to get out right afterwards, since my vag is elongated. Usually if I just wait a bit though, I can get it just fine. :)
mercy_rain 1st-Aug-2008 02:57 pm (UTC)
Agreed, sponges are nice - and the soft squishiness of them is, I think, less noticeable than the Insteads, in case of accidental bumping.

I have had to go on some serious fishing trips to retrieve them at times, but have always gotten them back :)
_knivesxout 1st-Aug-2008 03:54 am (UTC)
maybe try sex in the shower. that's what me and my boyfriend do, or we just throw a dark colored towel down on the bed and go to town. and maybe rethink the use of the word 'clean' in this post. it kind of makes it sound like having sex on your period is 'dirty' when it's definitely not and some people might get offended. just a friendly thought. =]
chasethefeeling 1st-Aug-2008 11:58 am (UTC)
anyone who gets their knickers in a knot over that is kinda silly. i mean... this isn't dirty as in WRONG or BAD... its dirty as in "my body / my SO's body is not shower-fresh, it's covered in blood."
i think it's different when one says "clean" as in "STD/STI free" because having an STI/STD doesn't physically make you unclean. period, as much as it's normal and healthy and it's just blood... if you saw someone with blood smeared on them you might be like "oh here's a tissue, clean yourself up" kinda thing. haha. but you know? =/
_knivesxout 1st-Aug-2008 11:36 pm (UTC)
yeah, it is silly but then again there are a lot of silly people who might take it the wrong way. you never know. =]
arularia 1st-Aug-2008 04:38 am (UTC)
I never had any issues with the Insteads leaking, but the pressure that they put on my pelvic bone (which is what kept them in place) would worsen any cramping I was having so you might want to look-out for that. I also never really mastered being able to remove them without winding up with blood all over my hand, but that's probably my fault for not sticking with them long enough.

Since the Insteads sit *literally* right over your cervix, it's doubtful that your guy should have too many issues with it unless he's large enough that he regularly comes into contact with your cervix. And I certainly hope that that's not the case since it's no fun to have your cervix hit. Even if he does it feel it though, I can't imagine it being enough to distract him from what's going on. It's not like there's anything to poke him or cause pain.
pygmybugs 1st-Aug-2008 06:46 am (UTC)
I have sex with the Instead all the time. My partner says he can feel it, but it's not unpleasant -- just "there." But I also use the Nuva ring, so there's maybe a day or two a month that I don't have some kinda little squishy plastic widget up in there. Heh. He's not super huge, though. That might affect things.

I've never really had any problems with it. When we have the holycrap supersex marathons (we're sort of notorious for going at it for several hours at a time), it can get kinda suctiony and slightly harder to remove (although my vagina is really into doing that "tenting" thing, so that might be part of it). A couple of times when I was bleeding really heavily and we had a lot of sex with the Instead in, it was kind of a mess to remove. Orgasms seem to increase my bloodflow, so it'd be incredibly full, and since the "cup" part is actually more like a soft bag, when the leading edge hit air, the bag squishes and blood almost squirts out. I just make sure I'm sitting well back on the toilet when I remove it.

Otherwise, the Instead has saved my sheets. I get insanely horny during my period, and the boy isn't bothered at all by blood (and I'm frankly turned on by bloody sex), so previously we'd just throw one of my crappy dark sheets over the regular ones and go for it.
starsatnight13 1st-Aug-2008 04:03 pm (UTC)
Sponges say on the packaging that they are not to be used during your period probably because you have to leave the sponge in for 6 hours after sex.
hgvks 1st-Aug-2008 06:23 pm (UTC)
Heh, when the OP mentioned sponge, I immediately thought of a sea sponge being used like a tampon, rather than contraceptive sponges! In this case, a sea sponge should work well for this!
starsatnight13 1st-Aug-2008 06:39 pm (UTC)
Ha - you could be right. I forget about that kind of sponge. I use contraceptive sponges so that's where my mind goes, obviously. =)
xhallucinationx 3rd-Aug-2008 05:25 am (UTC)
Make sure you empty it out before hand. I haven't had one spill (thank god), but it did kind of leak a little once since I hadn't emptied it. Also, just make sure it's in as far as you can get it, so it'll sit better. My guy says he can't feel it and he's pretty well-endowed.

If you're really worried about mess, try it in the shower maybe? Or just have some wet washcloths around for quick clean-up if necessary. Good luck.
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