9:32 pm - 07/01/2008

Ben Wah Balls

Could I get some advice as to how to use ben wah balls both with myself and with a partner??

cross posted to sex_tips
destinyawakened 2nd-Jul-2008 01:27 am (UTC)
I want to know too! my husband bought me some and I just dont get it!
hope someone has some good tips!
creativexangst 2nd-Jul-2008 01:30 am (UTC)
I hope we get some good advice then :)
dieselbaby_69 22nd-Oct-2009 08:52 pm (UTC)
While I am no pro, I did purchase a set for myself(2 loose balls no strings) to help with the kegel exercises. I have been using them for about 1 month, I have them in when I am at work.
To insert I just push them in till they are comfortably up and not falling out, to remove sometimes you do have to feel around in there but if you push hard like you are peeing or coughing they will usually show up.
I have had sex with them in as well, my partner said he couldn't feel anything different but I did.
Before I started using them I had read horror stories online about people losing them I luckily have not encountered this problem(even after sex). I have definitley noticed stronger pelvic muscles and I would reccomend these little guys to anyone.
creativexangst 2nd-Jul-2008 03:18 am (UTC)
Unfortunately, that just tells me what they are, which I know, lol, not how to use them effectively.
17_yessie_17 2nd-Jul-2008 05:01 pm (UTC)
What a great, informative video!
creativexangst 2nd-Jul-2008 05:15 pm (UTC)
Yea, but it still didnt help me with the insertation of and all that....
bomega 3rd-Jul-2008 01:50 am (UTC)
So...what exactly is your question(s)? How to insert them? Well, you insert them into your vagina...and pull them out to remove them. I guess that sounds like I'm trying to be a smartass, but that really is all there is to it. Then, the video described various things to do with them.
creativexangst 3rd-Jul-2008 12:08 pm (UTC)
I just didnt realize that that was all there was to them...how simple!
bomega 4th-Jul-2008 01:36 am (UTC)
Hmm...after thinking about it, I realize I owe you an apology. It occurred to me that you may not have inserted other things into your vagina...and I've used applicator-less tampons since I was 19, and now use the menstrual cup.

Soo...you would insert it into your vagina similar to how you would an applicator-less tampon. In fact, here are the diagrams from the OB tampon site (you only need step 3 for the Ben Wa balls): http://www.obtampons.com/en/designed.jsp

Anyway, good luck, and let us know how it goes. :)
creativexangst 4th-Jul-2008 02:29 am (UTC)
Haha, well, yea, its confusing all right! Okay, so I've used OBs and they never seem to go as far up as I needed them to, and I cant really use dildos sooo...I put these in, and I think Im still doing something wrong because they seem to fall out fairly quickly, and I have strong muscles and do kegal excersises daily, so Im just confused. I think I need to lay on my back with a pillow under my pelvis and insert them then...
bomega 5th-Jul-2008 12:53 am (UTC)
Hmm...you may be doing them right - part of the function of ben wa balls is that they help develop the PC muscles through learning to hold them in, and they work the PC muscles differently than Kegels. Think of it as cross-training for your PC muscles ;).

But yeah...start out doing it lying down, and work up to using them standing. I'm not sure if you are interested, but Fun Factory makes a variation on ben wa balls called Smart Balls: http://www.goodvibes.com/search/super_search.jhtml?action=newSearch&sources=gl&searchTerms=smart+balls

which are larger and made of elastomer, so they may be easier to work with at first.

Good luck.
creativexangst 5th-Jul-2008 03:36 am (UTC)
OMG Fun Factory ::squee:: ^_^. I love them :)
rosiep468 3rd-Jul-2008 02:43 am (UTC)
From http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sexed/benwaballs.asp:

While many Ben Wa novices express alarm at the thought of inserting and removing the balls, it's relatively simple: just pop them in and squeeze them out. You may want to experiment with location; some people enjoy holding them lower in the vagina, while others try to position them directly behind their G-Spots. Just don't aim for the cervix--while you're unlikely to have a problem with them slipping past your body's gateway to the uterus, you probably won't enjoy any kind of clanging sensation that close to your cervix, a region some women find particularly sensitive.

Also, http://edu.love-shop.biz/post/benwaballs.html seems to have a good amount of info on insertion, use, etc.
abuddingnation 7th-Mar-2010 10:59 pm (UTC)
So, I recently got some because my yoga instrustor suggested them as a way to help control a situation w/involuntary urination when coughing or sneezing that has cropped up after the birth of my second child.

The store where i purchased them had them in FIVE sizes! I went w/ the middle size. Sometimes, they do come close to being expelled during coughing but mostly, i don't feel them at all. Is that normal? Should I have gotten some other size?

I thought they were supposed to help stimulate in ways other than just building vaginal muscular strength but that hasn't been the case w/ me (?!).
creativexangst 8th-Mar-2010 02:53 pm (UTC)
Well, when properly inserted, they will sit right above your g-spot and can stimulate you, but truthfully, in my experience, they're best used as a muscle building aid. And if you cant feel them, thats good!
ladylady143 Someone please answer my question11th-Apr-2011 03:41 am (UTC)
I just order the ben wa balls. It comes with 2 ben wa balls. It is metal balls. Do I insert both or just one? Also, once it's in there how long should I leave them in each day? Also, once you insert them? what do you do? nothing? are you suppose to just squeeze tight your muscles or just act as if nothings in there? help me
creativexangst Re: Someone please answer my question12th-Apr-2011 04:34 am (UTC)
You insert both balls, the idea is that they will bounce off each other and aid in stimulation. You insert them and use your muscles to keep them in. Start at 5 minutes, and if you can easily do that, go up to 10. Try doing that and every week or two increase it by 5 minutes. You can clamp then unclamp the balls to get a different sensation. But its something to try when you're at home, and when your starting out, alone. Its kinda hard to explain where these two random ball bearings came from...
ladylady143 13th-Apr-2011 04:48 pm (UTC)
What if I don't want the sensation and I just want to tone it down there? Is this the wrong tool?
creativexangst 16th-Apr-2011 11:34 pm (UTC)
Nope, that works perfect too. Just follow the above steps, and focus on clenching around them. I find that ben wah balls dont do much for me sensation wise but my partner goes nuts for the squeezing sensation I use when we're together thats the same as I use for the balls.
garra mars 14th-Jan-2012 05:44 am (UTC)
Does anyone know which brands I should start with and where to get them?
Amy Adinda ben wa balls - womenshealth123.com23rd-Jul-2011 05:40 pm (UTC)
Ben Wa Balls are simply small, weighted, marble sized balls that are placed in the vagina. Once inside of the vagina, the vaginal muscles are used to hold them in place. These vaginal muscles will, as a result, become stronger. Just like any other muscle in the body, when you work it out it will become conditioned. You can use them anytime, anywhere. Some women use them when their doing the dishes, while others use them while they’re running, or even when they’re out shopping! But what does this mean for your sex life? A lot!

If you use Ben Wa Balls frequently, they WILL tighten and strengthen your vaginal muscles. These muscles, when made stronger, will contract more powerfully to give you incredible orgasms. In fact, some women report having their FIRST orgasm as a result of strengthening their vaginal muscles. Moreover, you will develop more control over the muscles in your vagina. You can use them to manipulate your man’s penis, driving him absolutely wild each and every time you make love to him.
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