3:39 pm - 05/07/2008

semen causing vagina to burn

Every time my fiance ejaculates into my vagina, I get serious burning. Like, so bad that it hurts to sit down for like an hour if I don't wash immediately, and even then it still stings for quite some time.
There is never swelling, and when he comes on my belly instead I never get a rash or anything.
Why does this happen?
Is there a way to prevent it without using condoms or withdrawl?
stupidforyou 7th-May-2008 10:49 pm (UTC)
I get this too. Do you use lube? I found that when he put lube on before penetration it didn't burn and when/if it did it only bothered me for about a minute or so.

I think mine is from friction causing small tears and the potency of his cum to make it burn.

Or if lube doesn't help maybe take benadryl before hand?
save3tearsforme 7th-May-2008 11:00 pm (UTC)
I have tried a few kinds of lube, but they all seem to dry out really fast, making it worse than it was to begin with.
The one I had the least problems with was astroglide but it burned me a little bit and (this is totally embarrassing and weird) but one time I used it for like a 45 minute session and the inside of me was so irritated that when I stood up, pee started coming out of me and I couldn't contract my muscles enough to make it stop...
stupidforyou 7th-May-2008 11:07 pm (UTC)
Maybe you're sensitive to something inside of one of those products. I would suggest other types of lube but I'm not sure which kinds I've used. I know I've used flavored astroglide and unflavored astroglide. And then my bf has watermellon flavored but I'm not sure what brand it is.

I'm pretty sure someone here is a huge supporter of wet brand lube. I think they said it was a gel so it's not as runny and doesn't dry up and get sticky I'm not sure. I've never tried it.
rogue0703 7th-May-2008 11:21 pm (UTC)
I use Wet Platinum. I'm not the huge supporter you were talking about, but since I started using it, I have mentioned it in a few posts. It is a bit runny still, but not as bad as some lubes I've used. It doesn't dry up and get sticky as bad as any other lube I've used, but once in awhile we've needed a second application of it. I have vvs (vulvar vestibulitis) and vaginismus so there isn't much that I can use without irritation, and as long as it isn't right after my period I don't have any irritation while using it.
stupidforyou 7th-May-2008 11:09 pm (UTC)
OH and you could always go for something more natural. I don't remember if it was this community or sex_tips but someone said they liked using coconut oil cause it tastes good, is vagina safe, and stays lube-y a long time and doesn't run off in the shower. I'm sure you could get a lot of that for super cheap at a plain old grocery store. Better deal than any lube I've ever used.
herloved_beauty 8th-May-2008 03:27 pm (UTC)
You can pretty much use any kind of oil, even olive oil. Some just choose coconut oil for the smell and taste.
sleepy_tears7 7th-May-2008 11:22 pm (UTC)
Are you sure it was pee? Sometimes when I stand out, cum leaks out of me and I can't control it at all. It feels like I'm peeing.


Also, this sounds weird, does your boyfriend have a really large penis? That may be causing some of the issues.

Have you ever been checked for a UTI? Where is the pain, IN your vagina or more up in your stomach?
save3tearsforme 8th-May-2008 12:15 am (UTC)
I'm positive it was pee. It was coming out my urethra. ha.

he's average sized, but I'd never had intercourse before i was with him. The thing, though, is that we used condoms and withdrawl for about 6 months before i went on the pill and he started ejaculating into me and I never had this kind of irritation before.

the pain is in like the opening of my vagina, especially around that spongy area just inside (g-spot?). And I don't have pain unless semen gets in there so i doubt it's a UTI.
sleepy_tears7 8th-May-2008 01:04 am (UTC)
It could be what he's eating? If he eats a lot of spicy food, they say it effects the semen (well the taste at least). Has there ever been a time when it didn't bother you? Or always since you started having sex?
save3tearsforme 8th-May-2008 01:57 am (UTC)
ever since we started having sex without a condom, it's been like this, as far as I can recall.
jacquelinewas17 8th-May-2008 12:37 am (UTC)
Have you tried liquid silk? It might not solve all of your problems, but it's definitely the best lube I've tried.
atalanta0jess 8th-May-2008 12:45 am (UTC)
I use Firefly Lube which is all natural, and it doesn't get dry at all. It doesn't maintain its lubricating capacity forever, but its sort of lotiony...it gets less slippery, but doesn't get sticky. It sort of rubs in the way that lotion does (only much more slowly than a regular lotion. I don't know if I'm making any sense here. But I HATE that sticky feeling! Its so awful, isn't it? Anyway, it might be worth a shot. Since it doesn't contain icky ingredients, it might not be so irritating.
archangelbeth 7th-May-2008 11:31 pm (UTC)
It could also be that you are allergic to his semen. If that is the case, then there are some (probably expensive) desensitization things you can do, but you will need to contact an allergist. Otherwise... condoms or withdrawal, sorry.

Hopefully it's just a lack of sufficient lube, and it's stinging because it's in little tiny cuts, instead -- that's easier to fix.

Good luck!
jacquelinewas17 8th-May-2008 12:39 am (UTC)
That happened to me when the dude I'm banging and I first started having condom-less sex. My vag eventually got used to it, yours might also. As archangelbeth said, you might be allergic to his semen. Does it also burn if his semen gets into your mouth?
save3tearsforme 8th-May-2008 12:46 am (UTC)
nope, it only burns my vagina. I'm thinking maybe the friction just irritates my skin, making it more sensitive?
tenna 8th-May-2008 01:36 am (UTC)
When I first started to allow my SO to ejaculate inside me, it was very burny and uncomfortable. It made my vag not at all happy, and it would stay uncomfortable to the point I wouldn't want to have sex at all for quite awhile afterwards.

How long has your fiance been ejaculating inside you? My vag got used to it after oh... three or so weeks, I think.
save3tearsforme 8th-May-2008 01:56 am (UTC)
well we have a long distance relationship and I've actually noticed that it is worse than it was before I moved away.
He's been ejaculating in me for like ten months now.
tenna 8th-May-2008 02:00 am (UTC)
I do notice that if I postpone from sex for awhile, it gets a bit burny and uncomfortable the first time it happens.

How often do you get to have sex with him? Maybe your vag just never gets to adjust.
save3tearsforme 8th-May-2008 02:22 am (UTC)
good point. maybe once summer starts (I'm away for school right now) it'll start getting better.
I'll go home maybe every 2 weeks, but he doesn't always come in me. for a while there I stopped taking my pill (no sex drive on it) so he just pulled out.
I will definitely see what happens when I can have sex more often.
lostdaemon 8th-May-2008 03:48 am (UTC)
I'm getting the same thing. Seriously burning after he comes inside me - as far back as I could remember, although I've only recently started mentioning it. Not an issue with withdrawal, and we don't use condoms. I was scared it might be an allergy, but I'll try the lube thing too - organic is good! Thanks so much for posting, I was a little too embarrassed to do so myself.

And frequency might improve it? We only have sex like two-three times a week...
save3tearsforme 8th-May-2008 04:07 am (UTC)
Don't be embarrassed! haha
I'm thinking maybe my skin down there will be a little less sensitive if we start having sex more often...I'll post another entry in a month or so for an update to see if any of this works.
jeaninel_louise 29th-Dec-2009 03:08 pm (UTC)
Girls,
Try cocoa butter or coconut butter. Great taste, fun to rub on, kills yeast, and helps with vulvar vestibulitis. I even reapply while he's inside of me every 20 minutes or so.
mybflovesme still happens16th-Mar-2010 04:34 am (UTC)
My vag has been burning after ejaculation for months now. It is not a frequency thing because we do it all the time. It isn’t a getting used to thing because the first couple months this did not happen. It doesn’t burn when it is my mouth. I thought maybe it had something to do with my birth control, but that isn’t a side effect. Any ideas?
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