5:04 pm - 05/04/2008

Teeny tiny clitoris...and masturbation?

I rarely, if ever, enjoy masturbating...because of my teeny tiny clitoris! It's sort of like "Oh, this feels nice" but it never gets to the point where I am anywhere near orgasm! It also takes a little longer for my female partners to bring me to orgasm than my male ones...which complicates things because right now, I have a girlfriend, but no boyfriend. Any ideas as to what might help my little clit be more responsive to my own--and others'--touch?
krisssa 4th-May-2008 10:09 pm (UTC)
I like using a cream called "Entice" by Pajama Parties (www.pajamaparties.com)


ahota84 4th-May-2008 10:13 pm (UTC)
have you attempted g-spot orgasms? Or used a vibrator?
flutterbychild 4th-May-2008 10:17 pm (UTC)
I've only had G-Spot Orgasms during PIV sex... I can do that myself, and get my girl to do that as well? Awesomeness!

As for vibes, I see a lot of interesting ones...but I wouldn't know how to choose one.
slipstreamborne 4th-May-2008 10:38 pm (UTC)
Yep. They even make wands/dildos (with and without vibration) designed specifically for g-spot play. Don't know if you've ever visited babeland.com, but they have multible excellent toy-buying guides for all kinds of solo and partner play, whatever your sex and preferred method of stimulation.

And hey, if it turns out that you prefer other types of stimulation besides clitoral, that's perfectly all right. We're all wired a little differently regarding what feels best physically and gets us off mentally.
regyt 5th-May-2008 01:26 pm (UTC)
Oh hells yeah, ditto this recommendation.
slipstreamborne 4th-May-2008 10:30 pm (UTC)
Perhaps the issue isn't size (which to my understanding alone doesn't or shouldn't affect sensitivity in genitalia across the board) but the amount of contact you're recieving. Your hood could not be retracting as fully as possible, limiting the surface area of exposed nerve endings. When masturbating, try pulling back the hood so that the glans is completely exposed. That plus varrying levels of arousal/amount of blood being pumped through the area can cause noticible differences in the level of sensation.

When comparing the amount of time it takes to achieve orgasm with your male and female partners, are you comparing similar sex acts? Do both use clitoral-only stimulation, or is penetration also involved? How about stimulation to the rest of your vulva? The clitoris extends further into the body than the exposed glans, and while the concentration of nerve endings is much greater in the glans "head," the rest is also sensitive to stimulation (the wikipedia article has several diagrams showing the full extent of the clitoris). Perhaps a difference in positions you practice with your male and female partners could accound for some of the difference.

Also try a little lubricant to the head/under the hood, as well as variety of different types/intensities of sensation. Different people have different reactions to hard/smooth textured objects, varying levels of vibration from toys, general pressure or sharp contact from nails, light tickling vs. hard pressure etc. etc. And remember that masturbation, just like sex, can be as much if not more about mood than it is actual stimulation. Getting your whole body and mind into it, not just your clitoris, greatly enhances the sensation.
Angie Goodnight Good answer, Slipstream4th-Mar-2014 09:57 am (UTC)
Using something between your bare clit and the device, whether it be tongue, vibrator or finger, can make a difference. My clit goes very sensitive indeed after an orgasm for about 20 minutes or so and extra stimulation is a turn off rather than a turn on so I imagine that is what you are experiencing.

My partner wrote a post yesterday 3/3/14 on a similar question. You might like to read that. Just search my name. Angela Goodnight.

I think as long as you are getting orgasms from another source then you are far better off than 20% of women who never orgasm. As you get older sensitivity does reduce and that might help. Size shouldn't be an issue. Mine is only quarter of an inch and my partner has encountered them as small as an eighth of an inch across.

Best of luck. Would love to know if ever you solved it as your post is very old.
drownophelia 5th-May-2008 03:24 pm (UTC)
i to, have a very small clit, and have difficulty orgasming through clitoral stimulation. i think because all of the eight thousand nerve endings are so concentrated in such a small surface area, it makes my clit extremely sensitive, so it can quickly turnover from yeah-yeah-yeah to erm? are you doing anything down there? it just can become so overwhelmed by sensation that i cease feeling anything pleasurable.

that being said, it generally helps to have something between me and the thing doing the stimulation--undies or a sheet. it makes stimulation more bearable, and exciting. lots of lube helps to, and a light hand at first. i tend to get off easier though indirect simulation than direct--grinding against my partner's hip bone or thigh bone feels incredible for me.
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