12:18 pm - 12/05/2007

Normal Clitoral Size?

I've searched through the tags and didn't see anything on this so hopefully this hasn't been answered many times over. My question is, what is the "normal" range of sizes for a clitoris? Ironically, while I've read alot about women having trouble finding the clitoris mine has always been in plain sight and I'm afraid that it is freakishly large. My clitoris itself is probably about 1cm but I have a very large hood (as in an inch long) that to me looks more like a foreskin than anything feminine. If I'm aroused I actually feel erect. In general, I've always felt that my vulva is just larger and more noticeable than it should be and I feel really self-conscious and ashamed. I'm in my early 20s and I'm still afraid to have sex or go the gyn because I'm ashamed of how I look. Objectively I know better, but emotionally... I don't know.
archangelbeth 5th-Dec-2007 05:41 pm (UTC)
Well, at the least, the gynecologist has seen pretty much everything -- including, in some cases, MtF women.

There is a range of normal -- just because you might be on a thinner part of the bell-curve, instead of right in the hump, doesn't mean that you're not normal. And anyway, if all the parts are out in plain view, it reduces the learning curve of your partners in finding them, right?
chazlene 5th-Dec-2007 06:02 pm (UTC)
Some guys dig on big clits...and *please* go to the doc....
h2ok 5th-Dec-2007 06:34 pm (UTC)
Nearly all mammals have a foreskin. Don't be self conscious! The penis is homologous to the clitoris so it truly does become erect upon arousal. No shame in that. Check out this link at the-clitoris.com for more info on average sizes. :-)
skeas 5th-Dec-2007 07:19 pm (UTC)
I second the suggestion to check out the Everyday Bodies Project.

Another thing to remember is that everyone is self conscious about something to do with their genitalia. I have fordyce spots (and was convinced for years that it was a strange disease I'd acquired through masturbating). My boyfriend fretted about the very slight curve in his penis. One of my best guy friends suffers from a disease that means that he gets tiny benign cysts down there. One of my other guy friends gets so nervous before he has sex that he goes soft every time. Bodies are imperfect vessels, and all of your partners are going to know that. No one expects to find that, underneath your clothes, you are a supermodel. There are plenty of people out there who will love you not despite that fact, but because of it. He'll love your scars and peculiarities because they've made you into the person you are.

Just as an aside, I think my vulva is also on the larger side. I also have a large clitoral hood, and my clit is definitely noticeable. You'll find that your sexual partners have the weirdest turn-ons--things you never expected them to notice or be aroused by. My boyfriend loves to put his fingers on my clit and feel it get harder as I get more aroused. He often makes exclamations like, "Your clit is soooo hard!" Not particularly an arousing thought for me: for some reason, it really turns him on to know that I'm so aroused that I've had an actual physical response he can gauge.
ends_and_means 5th-Dec-2007 07:45 pm (UTC)
here's a really interesting article i found about a girl born with a large clitoris: http://www.isna.org/node/633 proof that nothing is "abnormal."

mari_mac1109 5th-Dec-2007 10:32 pm (UTC)
That actually sounds more or less normal, maybe a bit larger, but certainly nothing at all to worry about. Most reading I've done will say that the clitoris will be about the size of a pea, and I don't think 1cm is too far off at all. Mine is just about bigger than a pea, and I have had nothing but fun with it! It's a ball of nerves pretty much just there for your enjoyment.

I know for a fact that my outer labia and mons are bigger than what most would consider normal and this used to bother me. But, gynecologists HAVE seen it all and I've never had a partner complain! For me, getting comfortable with my vulvar region meant really getting to know it. Shaving bare actually really helped me in this. I'm not saying it's the answer for all women, but being all smooth made me like it a bit more, even though my honkin' labia had no more hair to hide behind. Seeing how all of the vulva reacts when you're aroused is just really *cool* and knowing that a baby can come out of my vagina? Knowing what my cervix does? It's really made me appreciate my parts.

I definitely recommend the Every Day Bodies Project, but the best advice I could offer you would be not to worry about it. I know that's easier said than done, but a gyno isn't going to shriek and run for the hills when you drop your undies. They've seen babies come out of cervixes, they've seen transexuals, they've seen all manner of different vulvas, they've seen razor burn and vulva zits, rashes, yeasties, STDs symptoms like warts, cysts... a good many of them have probably seen genital piercings as well. And, if you find a partner you can really trust and love, he or she is going to love your bits as well.

Just like most girls probably wouldn't freak out about a penis that curved one way slightly or whether a guy was cut or uncut, I don't think too many partners will freak out about a large vulva.

The fact alone that they're yours and a part of your body makes them awesome and beautiful, you know? Unique, even. No two snowflakes right? Well, no two vulvas either. :)
my_neighborhood 6th-Dec-2007 05:20 am (UTC)
There's no such thing as the normal size. They can be very very small, to very very large, and everything in between. Plus the foreskin you described (i have something similar) is actually supposed to be like that. Male and female start out as the same type of fetus- it's no coincidence that our parts are very similar, even our genitals.

Check out VP's Everyday Bodies Project- it's tagged on the left hand side :)

dayglow 6th-Dec-2007 08:05 am (UTC)
I don't think yours sounds way out of the range of 'normal', whatever normal is. Thinking about mine, 1 cm sounds about right - the size of a pea, as another commenter said. And if anything, my boyfriend likes to try to make it as huge and hard as he possibly can (cause in boy minds, big and hard=good like their penis, right? Right.) and I can imagine that most guys are the same.
daddysaysto 6th-Dec-2007 02:56 pm (UTC)
People's bodies come in all different sizes. Whether or not your clitoris is larger than other ladies, it simply is. Dayglow has a good way to think about it-- guys equate bigger with better. And Chazlene is also correct, MANY guys get excited when they see large clitorii.

Men who have a hard time finding a woman's clitoris won't with you-- how is this a bad thing? He doesn't get embarrassed because he can't find something that is supposed to be easy to find and it's easier for him to be able to stimulate and pleasure you.

Stop thinking there's anything wrong with your body because of the way something looks. You could use this as a litmus test. If somebody were to be put off because your clitoris wasn't what he expected, that's a pretty good bullet to dodge, anyway. He's not worth your time or effort. Real men appreciate their partners BECAUSE of the ways that they're different, they don't criticize them because of them.

I envy your partners, present and future, for they will know a wonderful person with exceptional physical attributes.
sand_woman 7th-Dec-2007 11:05 am (UTC)
I don't know if this will help, but I really envy you. I think I would get so much more out of sex if my clitoris was able to get anywhere near the action, but it's small and it hides!
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