1:30 pm - 11/28/2007

What is your preferred penis size?

I know, not technically a vaginal type question, but I have been having conversations with a guy recently who seems to think he is...small.

Him - its little
Me - its short, yes, but fat. Girls like fat ones.
Him - I'll have to take your word for it, but its still small.
Me - Girls don't care. Its how you use it, and anyway, take your penis out of the equation and you are still good in the sack.

And so on. So, I, as *my* preference is for fatter ones, rather than long ones, I thought I would ask the rest of you.

In penis size alone, skill being secondary, which do you prefer, and why? (assuming you are that way inclined of course) I like the fatter ones coz I can feel them better.

*edit* for those who may be wondering, his length (on the top side, looking down ..er, yeah)..is 5-5.5 inches, but with a girth of 7.5 inches. :O
mylittlebox 28th-Nov-2007 02:39 am (UTC)
I don't like them to be too big or too wide. It makes sex, for me, awkward and sometimes painful. I prefer somewhere in between. But I do appreciate width over length. Width tends to hit those sweet spots more often and harder.

My boyfriend is DEFINITELY not the largest that I've been with, but like you said, it's the skill that matters. And I'd never sleep with anyone else because of it.
journalofsadie 28th-Nov-2007 02:42 am (UTC)
Width is definitely the most important factor. Whenever I've had sex hurt, it's always because the penis is too long.
ambly 28th-Nov-2007 02:50 am (UTC)
um...you could tell him that the average male penis is only 5-5.5 inches long when erect, regardless of how big it is otherwise, which is true, according the the Human Sexual Behavior class I had.

perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 02:51 am (UTC)
Oh, I have said that numerous times...as he says, he doesn't look at other fellas :s
h0rsegurrrl 28th-Nov-2007 02:50 am (UTC)
Oh yay, I can contribute to this. I've had three partners as of late:

C: Short and skinny, what I would call "small," but he was skilled in using it and knew that he could be rough with it.

N: Longest I've ever experienced, and moderate width. Has to use large-size condoms. Somewhat flaccid, not "rock-hard." Uses it well but sometimes it goes too deep and hurts. If he used his as rough as C uses his, he would seriously hurt me. He can stimulate my g-spot rather well, but I can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation anyway.

R: By far my favorite. Length is somewhere between C's and N's, and is wider than both of the above. I'm a width-girl, myself; I much prefer a wide one to a long one. It's also incredibly hard. Also has to use large condoms. I suppose I'm somewhat biased to prefer R's because he's my primary partner and I love him.

Overall I guess I prefer moderate length, and above-average width. But honestly, I'm not going to kick a guy out of bed because of the size of his penis, be it too big or too small. It matters way more how he uses it. I'd rather have a guy with a tiny penis who knows how to use it well, than a huge penis on a guy who is clumsy with it.

/end way more than you ever wanted to know about h0rsegurrrl's partners.
perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 03:00 am (UTC)
I once has the pleasure(?) of a long and wide penis - that also didn't get hard, hard. Was quite disconcerting.
atalanta0jess 28th-Nov-2007 02:51 am (UTC)
I don't think that 5 inches is short really. A little less than average, yes. But that's not terribly super short, IMO.
perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 02:53 am (UTC)
I don't either - as long as a fella know how to use them I don't really care either
aechei 28th-Nov-2007 02:58 am (UTC)
ahm...he's of average length.

oddly enough, both of the guys i've slept with are about the same size...despite being REALLY different sized people (200lbs, 5'10" vs 140, 5'6"--who's not as small as that sounds, actually.) i never measured either of them, but i'd say ...6ish or maybe a tad longer? don't know about thickness. seems a good size to me...i have pretty small girlbits for my size (5'7", 155) and much bigger would get awkward.
perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 03:03 am (UTC)
for interests sake, 7.5 inches is what my wrist is around.
princess_kessie 28th-Nov-2007 03:02 am (UTC)
For me, width is the factor. With length, I can get a guy to stop before he bottoms out, but if he's too wide, it won't go in. I had several partners earlier in life, and the overriding factor was girth/width... Of course, there is too small, too. For me, too small is when I can't feel anything with him inside. I'm not super big inside widthwise (tight entrance) so he has to be quite thin for me not to feel anything. I had one partner who was barely 3 inches around and less than 4.5 inches long - and I felt almost nothing - but he got off, no problems.

Since meeting my darling hubby almost 11 years ago, he has spoiled me for anyone else (if anything ever happened to him I'd have to be celibate, because no-one else would ever measure up - pardon the pun) - he's perfect. He's as wide as my hand span (about 6 inches), and about 9 inches long. Of course, I have an unfair advantage where length is concerned these days - I don't have a cervix to get in the way (I had a complete hysterectomy 9 years ago). But he's so good either in or out of bed that I wouldn't trade him for anyone else. Ever. Period.
sprtwrid 28th-Nov-2007 03:09 am (UTC)
ignoring skill, wider is usally better than long. I hate when my cervix gets hit during sex. Even short guys can hit my g-spot perfectly, as long as they have some width to them. I prefer wider ones, mostly because i have had 2 kids, and skinny ones dont get the job done for me anymore.

Adding skill to the equation, one of my favorite partners was only about 1.5in thick and about 4in hard. He knew how to use it though, and is still the only person to machine gun orgasms for me. Of course, he spent a lot of time studying books on how to find g-spots and different techniques on how to stimulate orgasms.
Myhusband is average, 7in long and maybe 1.5in thick. He does a good job, but we are having some problems due to my recent weight gain making it hard to get the angle right for orgasms. Im glad hes willing to practice as often as possible though :P
mari_mac1109 28th-Nov-2007 03:09 am (UTC)
I like around 6.5-7.5. I just had sex with a boy around 5-5.5 and it wasn't THAT pleasurable for me. His girth was nice, but I have a fairly deep vagina (as in, there are days when I can't find my cervix with a flash light and a popsicle stick. :D).

His girth does seem pretty big, though.

It's all about finding a compatible partner in the end though. :D
perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 03:14 am (UTC)
His girth, compared to others I have experienced is HUGE. Ok maybe a bit of an exaggeration, but it is way bigger than the 'average' penis.

And we are extremely compatible. Its great. I wish other sexual experiences had the same compatibility - or maybe not...um, yeah..
classical_wolf 28th-Nov-2007 03:17 am (UTC)
I agree with width, though while everyone is giving measurements, I'm a bit confused. I had my guy measure himself (cause he was curious too), and he's 6.5" length, and about 2 inches (in terms of) circumference. I'm not sure what his girth would be. Does anyone know how to convert/estimate that?
perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 03:20 am (UTC)
I got his with a tape measure and wrapped it around the base. Cant do it with a ruler. As for converting...have no idea :s I'm sure it can be done, I just don't know how ;)
drownophelia 28th-Nov-2007 03:22 am (UTC)
i've had many and diverse experiences with a large variety of penises, not just because i've slept with seven men, but because two of them were transmen (born female but now identify as/live as men/male), one of whom worked at Babeland, and had a HUGE collection of strap-on dicks.

i definitely had to work up to taking, comfortably, happily, deliciously, some of the larger of that boy's collection, up to 8.5" length/2" diameter. he turned me into a size queen.

but after him, i spent a few years sleeping with bio-boys, none of whose cocks were as big, but definitely average, 5-6"

however, for me, one of the most important factors wasn't so much size, as was hardness. even if the dick isn't that huge, if it's hard, i can feel it. but if there's issues with getting hard, and staying hard, that's well, hard.



betterbebalboa 28th-Nov-2007 03:34 am (UTC)
I love width. If it's thicker around than my wrist, I know it's going to be good (mind, I have relatively slender wrists). Length--not as important. 5-6 inches is definitely fine. Too much more starts to be superfluous--it's not like you can do much more with it (unless your vagina is exceptionally deep). 7-7.5 is probably the longest I'd want. Shorter than 4 inches and/or thinner than several fingers is when I start to fear it won't be that great--but even then it can be excellent if he really knows how to use it.
archangelbeth 28th-Nov-2007 03:54 am (UTC)
Plump is better, in my opinion. Would that I could find more plump, short toys!
Too long is painful and can't be fully used.

Anyway, if he wants to really compare, he should check out www.erectionphotos.com (not safe for work, clearly!), which I found rather interesting.
kuni_bob 28th-Nov-2007 05:07 am (UTC)
I've noticed no correlation between size and quality, so I don't really have a preference, except that anything larger than 7" really hurts.
frolicnaked 28th-Nov-2007 07:25 am (UTC)
I have the same opinion... except that I've never had a full 7" of penis inserted inside me... but I can't make my 6" vibrator go in all the way.

I think it's impossible for me to take things like skill, positions, emotional connection, etc. out of the equation and focus solely on penis size. As long as penetration isn't physically painful, size is pretty much a non-issue for me.
trancemanual 28th-Nov-2007 05:57 am (UTC)
the thing is though, you'd think longer would be better for more varied positions, no?
perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 07:42 pm (UTC)
mm, there are a few positions that could be done with a longer one easier than a shorter one...I guess all lengths have limitations for some positions.
tisha313 28th-Nov-2007 07:19 am (UTC)
I don't even find sex pleasureable and I still wouldn't date a guy with a short penis. 5.5 inches is really small to me. I prefer a man who is long and thick 7-8 inchs. Bigger penises are just more visually appealling and all around turn on. Also, I think that it would be fun to practice ways that I could fit a guy that big into my mouth. And playing with it would also be stimulating. A short penis is just no fun to me
mightyfinewine 28th-Nov-2007 10:25 am (UTC)
I've had a pretty wide variety of sizes and by far my favorite is my husband's. It's moderately long 6" or so, and it's pretty thick. Size doesn't really seem to matter as much to me as hardness and ability to use it.

On a side note, I dated a guy in college who's penis was probably the exact same length/width as my husband's and it wasn't NEARLY as good. It never got really hard and he didn't seem to know what to do with it (and wouldn't listen to any of my requests as to WHAT to do with it). So I think that's the ultimate case for size not mattering as much as skill.

Beyond that, one of my best friends in college (male) boasted to all of his friends about his 9.5" penis. It wasn't a lie. I was good friends with a few of the girls he slept with. They all said they secretly hated it. And he even complained to me once that it sucks because his entire penis was never stimulated, becase it never went "all the way"....into anything (mouth, ass, vagina).

So bigger definitely isn't better.
perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 07:44 pm (UTC)
I'll take a skilled penis owner over a wonderful object d'art any day, no matter how big. ;)
theratgoddess 28th-Nov-2007 10:27 am (UTC)
I like average size I suppose. I hate trying to perform oral sex on someone that is very wide. My jaw hurts like hell. Truthfully I say that I have gotten the most pleasure from penises attached to someone I cared deeply about regardless of size.
dayglow 28th-Nov-2007 10:44 am (UTC)
I like a decent length but fat. My current boyfriend is about 6 inches around (I know this because it's about the same size as my wrist and I had a bracelet custom made for me :P) and I remember when I first saw it, I thought, 'I am going to be one happy girl :D:D:D:D'.

I think I have a fairly lengthy vagina for being so small, though, cause I can insert my 6" vibe all the way in and it barely reaches all the way in. And I definitely want something that can fill me up, ya know?

But I think, in general, guys who complain that their penises are too small obviously have never looked at other (non-porn) guy's penises cause if anything in my experience, they tend to be on the larger side. Go figure.
lyenuv 28th-Nov-2007 01:50 pm (UTC)
I like average, or slightly below average. Anything too wide tears, and too long pokes my cervix a little *too* hard.

Piercings are my big thing >D My SO has 5 piercings in his peen, and I cant even imagine sex without them now. I'd be screwed if we ever broke up, lol.
perigrine 28th-Nov-2007 07:46 pm (UTC)
Now piercings might be fun to ...experiment with. Don't see many on guys around here though :(
opheliaa 28th-Nov-2007 04:58 pm (UTC)
I've just gone from having sex with a big penis (seriously, as thick as my wrist) to a much smaller one. I prefer the smaller one.. we can do more. :)
plastic_wookie 30th-Nov-2007 09:22 am (UTC)
Width for the win! Some curve isn't bad either. Length is best when somewhat close to average, if it's too long something is going to get bruised.
Skill takes much more precedence, though.
perigrine 30th-Nov-2007 07:43 pm (UTC)
Oh, you just reminded me of a fella I was with a couple of years ago, who had a nice curve...in certain positions....well...yeah...made for awesome sex! (and he was skilled with it ;) )
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