2:47 pm - 07/19/2007

Post-Sex Mess

So, this might sound a little gross (and weird), but im totally confused about it and I'm sure someone might know what the HELL is going on.

I'm on birth control, so my boyfriend and I don't use condoms anymore, so generally when we have sex, he comes inside of me. After he pulls out...it seems like NONE of his semen stayed in my vagina, and its all coming out! Like dripping. And it usually is like this for a good 10-15 minutes after sex. So as you can see, it kind of makes for a messy and embaressing situation.

Has this happened to anyone else?
nycgal 19th-Jul-2007 07:53 pm (UTC)
All the time, but I usually rush off the bathroom and clean it up before it gets super messy.
sarahcb1208 19th-Jul-2007 07:53 pm (UTC)
Happens every time for me. We have a towel on hand, clean up a bit, both potty and then take a shower together :)
_r0ckintheplaid 19th-Jul-2007 11:36 pm (UTC)
photabulous 19th-Jul-2007 07:55 pm (UTC)
Happens every time. My husband understands and neither of us want "the wet spot" so he has no problem with me rushing off to the bathroom post-sex. Everytime I read in magazines that guys hate that it bugs me because they have no idea what it's like, obviously.
kaelstra 19th-Jul-2007 08:19 pm (UTC)
Oh yeah, very annoying that guys can't usually relate or understand. Their semen isn't magical and doesn't stay put, it comes gushing back out, which generally feels pretty gross, and gets semen all over the place. (Not fun for bedsheets)

Luckily, 9/10 times my partner is rushing into the bathroom himself to clean off, so it's more of a fight for who gets to the bathroom first than anything else. ;)
the__tourist 19th-Jul-2007 09:06 pm (UTC)
haha, i totally agree with the bathroom fight! we are always both trying to run in there!
kt_lynn86 20th-Jul-2007 04:07 am (UTC)
lol same here!
tilmitt 20th-Jul-2007 09:40 am (UTC)
Haha, same here. :D

I never had condomless sex without a roll of tissues nearby. ^^
tokudama 19th-Jul-2007 09:20 pm (UTC)
I can't imagine why they'd want to roll around in it, either. Seriously. UGH. lol.
marnanel 20th-Jul-2007 12:02 am (UTC)
as a penis-owning person, I'm entirely fine with it. not that I particularly want to roll around in the stuff, but it's just the natural way of things, hardly something weird or freaky. *shrugs*
photabulous 20th-Jul-2007 12:03 am (UTC)
I don't find it weird or freaky, just uncomfortable to sit around in for any period of time.
marnanel 20th-Jul-2007 12:07 am (UTC)
oh, i'm sorry if i didn't explain properly. i wasn't meaning that *you* thought it was weird or freaky-- i was just replying to Everytime I read in magazines that guys hate that it bugs me because they have no idea what it's like, obviously. and saying that i don't particularly. no big deal *shrugs*

(and also it's not exactly true that no guys have an experience of the natural results of having been ejaculated inside, obviously.)
h2ok 19th-Jul-2007 07:59 pm (UTC)
Yep. It's called gravity. :P
kalaam 19th-Jul-2007 08:04 pm (UTC)
Yep. My bf actually likes it. Like he gets to see his handiwork or something. Who knows what goes on in his head.
ends_and_means 19th-Jul-2007 08:08 pm (UTC)
where else would it go?

also, why is it embarrassing?

i just keep tissues by the bed, then go to the bathroom soon after.
missjecka 19th-Jul-2007 08:11 pm (UTC)
It's impossible for it to all stay up there! Gravity works on everything, including sex fluids of all kinds - lube, semen, your own womanly stuff... it all comes out.

When I was on birth control, I'd go to the batrhoom immediately after having sex. My boyfriend would do the same to clean himself off, and I'd go after to basically sit on the toilet, let everything come out, and wipe myself up. As far as I know, it's kind of a necessity unless you want it to come out all over yourself, your bed, etc.!
xconjuubluelips 19th-Jul-2007 08:13 pm (UTC)
It wouldn't just stay in there y'know hehe. Gravity! Just keep a towel handy.
hoodwink 19th-Jul-2007 08:16 pm (UTC)
I use toilet paper immediately afterwards, so I've never noticed any of it leaking out. but it would come out eventually!
kaelstra 19th-Jul-2007 08:18 pm (UTC)
Yup. Your uterus doesn't suck the semen into it really. The majority of it comes back out, because gravity works.

It's something that surprises a lot of women the first few times they have condom-less sex, because tv and movies make it look like the semen goes in and never comes out.

Some women have leakage for up to two-three days after sex.

About all you can do is go to the bathroom afterwards and bear down a bit to try and push some out, but you can expect some semen leaking for awhile after sex where he orgasms inside you.
brague 19th-Jul-2007 10:15 pm (UTC)
I was very confused the first time and he had to explain it to me, lol. We usually lay a towel down and clean each other off afterwards.
marnanel 20th-Jul-2007 12:03 am (UTC)
It's something that surprises a lot of women the first few times they have condom-less sex

not just women, either. why don't they teach about this kind of thing in school?
frolicnaked 20th-Jul-2007 12:48 am (UTC)
Good call. We probably need to add that suggestion to this thread on what would happen if VP made a "this is what sex is really like" movie. ;)

Maybe we title it, "Semen, Gravity, and You"?
suicidekitty911 20th-Jul-2007 01:43 am (UTC)
lol yes
kaelstra 20th-Jul-2007 12:52 am (UTC)
It's like some folks think the semen just gets sucked into a black hole inside your body, never to be seen again.

*spooky music*

Actually, I think I'd be kind of alarmed if it didn't come back out, now that I really think about it.
melisjesus 20th-Jul-2007 07:04 am (UTC)
haha, spooky music. i love it.
__onthebound 19th-Jul-2007 08:18 pm (UTC)
run to the toilet and hope it doesn't get all over my legs and feet in the process
teknoferit 19th-Jul-2007 08:34 pm (UTC)
Oh yeah, same thing happens to me, and it also seems to continue seeping out for the next day afterwards...
rockstarbob 19th-Jul-2007 08:39 pm (UTC)
I second all the commenters who suggest that a quick trip to the bathroom can be pretty handy. Urinating after sex can help to prevent UTIs anyway. :)
lupie_stardust 19th-Jul-2007 09:05 pm (UTC)
Totally normal. You can get it all out by squeezing, too.
as_she_melts 19th-Jul-2007 09:40 pm (UTC)
Happens all the time. As for that wet spot.. I was recently at a sex toy party (Pure Romance, I believe it was called), and they had some sort of cornstarch spray stuff that was supposed to get rid of the wet spot on the sheets. Sounds pretty amazing to me, but I had already spent too much on other fun things, so I didn't get it. I hear it also works wonders for greasy hair.
dayglow 20th-Jul-2007 12:22 am (UTC)
I was at a sex toy party too (aren't they fun??) and they had a similar product. But I was in the same boat - I wanted more things than I could possibly afford. :P
atalanta0jess 19th-Jul-2007 10:03 pm (UTC)
Totally normal - no reason to be embarrassed about it. We usually grab a towel to clean up afterwards, so I position it so that I can sit up right onto the towel, and squeeze out as much as I can. It still leaks out of me for a few hours though.
revolte_avecmoi 19th-Jul-2007 10:28 pm (UTC)
we keep tissues by the bed, or baby wipes. sometimes we'll end up taking a shower together, if it's a hot day and we're both sticky anyway, haha. it's not really embarassing, though..i think my boyfriend finds it amusing. like, "ooh, look what i made!"
niseag03 19th-Jul-2007 11:09 pm (UTC)
My husband and I actually have what we call our "sex towel" for that. He'll grab it for me, and then I use it to catch it while I run to the bathroom to pee. It's totally normal and nothing to worry about!
_r0ckintheplaid 19th-Jul-2007 11:36 pm (UTC)
Yes indeed, gotta have the sex towel.
awakeningone 20th-Jul-2007 04:02 am (UTC)
I third this! We have a few towels designated just for sex! lol Sex towel and/or toilet run after. =)
quietasariot 20th-Jul-2007 12:12 am (UTC)
all the time. we keep baby wipes in the house, and they come in handy. It still leaks for a couple of days for me! argh. lol. so, totally and completely normal :D
rockingsheep 20th-Jul-2007 12:58 am (UTC)
Box of tissues next to the bed, always.
druiaen 20th-Jul-2007 01:41 am (UTC)
Damn you, gravity! It's the way of the world, unfortunately - it's got no place to go (most of it, anyway) but out. It's why I'm not crazy about morning sex, I don't like the surprise dripping later in the day. If possible I hit the bathroom and shower immediately afterward, but even that doesn't take are of all the potential mess. I tend to wear a panty liner during the day after morning sex, and if we do it at night I just put on a pair of granny panties. Luckily I get mighty sleepy after sex so I can ignore the wet spot!
suicidekitty911 20th-Jul-2007 01:45 am (UTC)
what goes up must come down. there's nothing to be embarrased about. Usually hubby grabs a towel for me to lay on, and i discretely push it out. I usualy lay there for awhile, but i still have to haul ass to the bathroom to avoid making a mess on the way.
princess_kessie 20th-Jul-2007 02:01 am (UTC)
This is one of two reasons my hubby of eight years and I (eight years post-hysterectomy - no need for birth control) returned to condoms. (The other is I am allergic to semen.) Neither of us particularly liked the after-sex-mess - condoms contain it all in one easy-to-dispose-of neat little package. Condomless sex isn't always the be-all and end-all of sexual experiences in my opinion.

However, when we did have condomless sex, I placed a small thick towel under my butt (kept solely for this purpose), and we took out shares in Kleenex because of the number of tissues we used. Alcohol-free, hypo-allergenic, fragrance-free wet wipes also come in handy - a moist wipe after drying with Kleenex feels really good.

There is no need for embarrassment - it happens to everyone, and is a natural part of sex. Just enjoy the activities that led to it! ^_^
klemptor 20th-Jul-2007 02:17 am (UTC)
Yep - it's completely normal. In fact, it's why I prefer that he pull out and finish on my stomach rather than inside of me - that way it's much easier to clean up.
absolved 20th-Jul-2007 04:08 am (UTC)
Like everyone else said, perfectly normal.

I usually will get up to pee and clean up, but no matter what I do, more leaks out even HOURS later. If we're going out afterwards, I tend to put on a pantyliner so I don't have to sit in the dampness all night. haha
starzysky 20th-Jul-2007 04:30 am (UTC)
Um... that is totally normal.

We just keep a pile of washcloths near the bed (which we call cum rags, and bought for that purpose only). Before he pulls out we get a rag & I hold it so that it traps all the semen. Then I just go to the bathroom (holding towel in place!) and clean up. It's really not a big deal. We never have any "wet spot" issues.

You should ALWAYS pee after sex to ward off UTI's. So just bear down a few times when you go pee & all the semen will come out. Then you can avoid the "dripping" thing.
spiffychicky 20th-Jul-2007 04:42 am (UTC)
oh, of course. What goes up must come down.
We have a towel dubbed "the sex towel." I just sit on it for awhile post coital and all is well.
tenna 20th-Jul-2007 06:16 am (UTC)
Yup! It's totally natural. If available, I always rush off to the bathroom. If I can't, my SO will usually pilfer around for something suitable to wipe me off with.
iguanasdefuego 21st-Jul-2007 12:37 am (UTC)
Yes indeed. What goes up (or in) must come down (or out). It's messy and it's inconvenient, but it happens. Usually I go and clean up while he revels in a bit of postcoital bliss, then he comes in to clean up too.
It helps me to pee after sex, and while peeing, I bear down & that kinda pushes some of the semen out.
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